What is this "negging"?

ahumankid · 2025-02-14T07:47:21+00:00

Hey, you can’t call us that. Only we can call each other that.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-14T08:13:47+00:00

Negging is a backhanded compliment intended to knock a woman of her high horse, if she happens to be sitting on one.

I personally just avoid women who think they're "all that" 😅 not worth seducing someone with a big ego

I_suckyoungblood · 2025-02-14T08:24:08+00:00

Something that was big in here about 12 years ago that too many took advantage (douchebags) and eventually it’s now in the same aspect of gaslighting,and manipulation. Funnily enough I have noticed women trying this on me and I’ve noticed on other men over the last 4 years. I hate it, because it’s supposed to be lighthearted and sweet and instead people thinks it’s an excuse to be an asshole.

Dandys3107 · 2025-02-14T08:59:03+00:00

I guess it was broadly introduced as an answer to kinda "depedestal" women that have their expectations and ego elevated really high due to all validation and attention they get from society and desperate guys. It also introduces strong emotions and tension between man and woman, it's not really meant to offend anyone, but rather drag them down and engage in real interactions between imperfect human beings.

Jeff_Bravo · 2025-02-14T08:06:44+00:00

Nothing wrong with some teasing but yeah no need to constantly put people down just to smash lol thats lame to me

epimpstyle · 2025-02-14T09:48:28+00:00

It is one of the most misunderstood concepts, but HERE Mystery explains what a neg is. Better find out what it is from the source instead of what other people think is a "neg".

Dwerg1 · 2025-02-14T10:11:39+00:00

Something that has been misunderstood and inappropriately applied ever since negging became a topic among those who want to pick up women.

Most guys just apply it pretty much at random for its own sake, instead of understanding how and why it could work and when it doesn't work. What ends up happening is that the guy negs the woman, but he did so inappropriately and just ends up insulting her.

The appropriate use is as a response to her being a bit mean, essentially to show you're not just gonna let her walk all over you, which is attractive.

The worst time to neg her is if she's being nice, that just makes you an asshole. Any time she hasn't really said or done anything to deserve negative remarks it's inappropriate to neg her and is more likely to make her feel insulted, because what the hell did she do to deserve it?

Using negging in the correct context is absolutely crucial for it to have any chance of having a positive effect. Just finding a random insult to throw at her for no good reason isn't going to work and she'll likely just perceive you as a socially inept idiot, rightfully so in my opinion.

If you're gonna be a bit mean to a woman it should be in a way where it's abundantly clear you're not being serious, you're just teasing her and in fact think the opposite.

Title	What is this "negging"?
Author	Maple_Mercury_Men
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	February 14, 2025 7:42 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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