Hey everyone,

I’m going through a tough separation and could really use some advice or support from others who have been through something similar. My relationship has been very emotionally draining, and I’m in the process of seeking a dissolution (we’re not officially divorced yet). The situation is complex, and honestly, it feels like every step I take brings more stress.

I’m trying to stay strong, but every time I get a text from my soon-to-be ex, it’s like a punch to the gut, and it sends me spiraling into an anxiety attack. I feel overwhelmed with emotions and don’t know how to move forward sometimes. I’m getting a lawyer, but the cost and emotional weight of it all is a lot to bear. It feels like there’s always more to do, and I’m drained by it.

I know that I need to stick to my boundaries, but it's incredibly hard when she keeps trying to engage and pull me back into old habits of conflict. How do you guys cope with the emotional toll of starting this process? Any advice on how to stay focused and not let the constant back-and-forth break you down? How do I keep my composure when it feels like every text from her is triggering a panic attack?

I’d really appreciate hearing from others who’ve been through something like this. The legal and emotional aspects of it feel like a lot right now.

Thanks for any advice or support.