I'm based in a city in Spain with my family (my parents and my younger brother) which makes it very difficult for me to escalate sexually with women because I can’t bring them home, my logistics are fucked up. On the other hand I work 100% remote/online and 6-8 months a year I travel as a digital nomad. For now I will continue staying in my parents place because I like to be with them after my trips and I can save more money after spending a lot in my trip-months, I really like the digital-nomad lifestyle.

When I travel and live in other places, things are completely different. I rent my own place, live near the center, and the "exotic factor" works in my favor, so it’s super easy to meet girls and bring them back to my apartment. My confidence skyrockets because I know logistics are on my side, logistics are the key to escalate interactions. On my last trip to Greece, I slept with 8 different girls in a month (and repeated with 5 of them several times, so it could have been 15 or 20). In fact, abundance becomes the issue, it’s almost too easy, and I like to do other things in my life as well.

Back in my city, though, it’s the complete opposite. Meeting girls isn’t the problem, but moving things forward is. Last night I was with a girl, we kissed in my car, talked about sex, and I knew she was down to come to my place, but I couldn’t. I ended up just dropping her off at her place and I will escalate things through text game, if I can.

Right now, my options are:

  1. Sex in my car - exciting but uncomfortable, and even they like me, not all girls are up for it.
  2. A hotel - works but expensive if I want to see multiple women.
  3. Go to her place - doesn’t feel masculine, plus many girls don’t live alone.
  4. Slow-game, wait for date 2-3-4, and then go to a hotel - only worth it if I really really like her.

This whole situation kills my motivation to meet new women in my city. I feel like I’m wasting time and money because the window to escalate closes too fast. And for me, seduction is essential in my life, it’s not just about sex, it’s the ultimate personal development tool. It pushes me to improve socially, mentally, physically, and it gives me unforgettable experiences with women and the possibility to meet my future wife. I love women. But in my city, all these logistical headaches make me feel stuck.

As many of you know, best way to truly "hook" a woman is through sex, and sooner the better. It’s where emotions and connection really start. And without good logistics, that’s extremely hard to do.

What’s my idea?
In my city, I’m thinking about deleting dating apps and focusing only on cold approach. That way I practice my social skills, and if I meet someone worth the effort, great, if not I can focus my energy on other parts of my life until I’m traveling again, where seduction becomes much easier and more rewarding. But I feel stuck thinking of '6-8 months a year I can meet women with no problem, the other ones, complicated'.

What's your thought?