Can you imagine being a woman and having been conditioned to the conflicting ideas of the ultra-feminist narratives and dating at the same time? This problem is just not... solvable, unhappiness is the only way.

You want a relationship:

  • between equals, but then again, you expect yourself to be on a higher stand than the other person.
  • with a person, whom you are on principle afraid of attacking you or abusing you with a representative of the Oppression class
  • with a person who will be OK bashing his own Identity and peers with someone who will not be able to use your right to "hold space", "draw boundaries", "get the ick", because that would make him a misogynist, i.e. persona non grata
  • with a person who when requests something (aka a coffee in bed, a blowjob, space for his hobbies etc.) will be just exercising his patriarchy rights, so he will be shut down

I cannot find a way that this person will ever be happy within a relationship. And many of these people really need one, nonetheless, they fail to find one. So sad for all parties involved.

Now, to preemptively address some counter-arguments, I don't believe that any man or woman owes a relationship to any other person, I don't believe that any man or woman should settle within bad relationships and I don't believe that any man or woman needs a relationship to thrive and be happy.