Sorry if this is outside the scope of this sub. I don't know any other non-feminist place where I can ask that.

Some Background first, I'm near my 40s so its been a while since I was a teen. I don't live with my parents anymore. I'm an incel, both small-i involuntary celibate and big-I self-identified member of the Incel community. Ive been the latter since the early 2010s before the mass shootings, before algorithms and social media and before the i-word became widely known. Needless to say no one I know IRL is aware of that.

My parents and family in general spend all their free time watching series. There is NO WAY they (or extended family) didn't watch Adolescence and there is NO WAY they didn't make the association between "incel" and the ugly teenager I was in the early 2000s who was already terminally online before it became the norm.

I'm really afraid the topic will come up during the next family meal and I don't know how to react when it will to hide the fact I'm one. It will be awkward, or worse.

I think i can't credibly feign ignorance of what an incel is. My parents know I'm online. I think I can pretend to believe that it's just an insult used by young people. But then she would still recognize my behavior and may ask me questions. I can deny being one but knowing my family they will enquire further.

I hope the topic won't come up but if it does, what do you think I should say to dodge the issue or change the topic?

Any advice?