Long story short, my wife came to me recently and ask that we separate / divorce once we are both financially stable to do so. We’re both 35 and have 2 boys.

We’re working on this together and feel it’s the best situation. My question is, if we don’t get lawyers involved, is it required for me to pay alimony, child support, etc? I really don’t want to have to do this every month until the kids are 18.