Our niece is very much excited about weddings. I'm her elder uncle's (45) wife (45). We live in London, they're in Los Angeles. We're visiting California in June for her preschool graduation.

I have consulted with my husband and he's open to the general idea (as is our daughter, who will be staying with relative and not coming with us), bu I'm still working out the particulars.

As nobody from his family -- as the late matriarch was not big on the idea that both her sons would marry outside their race and the faith -- attended our wedding, I'm thinking of having the ceremony I wanted to have, 8 years and a child into marriage, for the niece to get excited about.

I still have my wedding gown and associated accessories. And his family's in the diamond trade, so I have a diamond set in a ring from Antwerp for our fifth anniversary, which hubby's willing to kneel and put on my ring finger whilst we're in California.

While we and the niece are on board with this, have we missed any stakeholders? His father doesn't care and my mother's opinion doesn't matter to us.