I poured my heart and soul into this video about men's struggles and started a youtube channel on it. Would love to know if it resonates with you

Upper-Divide-7842 · 2025-04-21T14:33:46+00:00

This is very good stuff. I hope you make more.

mrmensplights · 2025-04-21T19:29:13+00:00

It's far worse than that that. Even discussing this at all puts you on the dark side of society. Men just discussing the male experience is treated as threatening. Met with eye rolls, and shouts of "incel", charges of misogyny. Just talking about it smears you with the shit stick. Hell, posting in this sub gets you literally banned from many other subs.

Core Core as a means to seeking mental help

Careful here. While I agree whole heartedly that someone should seek emergency care if they are in a very dark place, the APA does not have a very positive outlook on men. Their guidelines for men pathologize masculinity, focus mostly on changing male behaviors and beliefs, and frames men as problems to be fixed rather than individuals needing help. The guidelines employ a lens of power, privilege, and oppression - masculinity contributes to societal inequities, particularly those affecting women. There are no positive male identity models offered, nor any mention or discussion of structural issues affecting men. The guidelines leaning more toward deconstructing masculinity (sometimes in relation to its impact on others, especially women) rather than affirmatively and empathetically addressing the specific needs of men.

Personally, during a dark time I went to several counsellors and each one downplayed my issues in subtle and not-so-subtle ways while directly referencing my identity as a man.

Again, this refers to long form talk therapy and not an emergency situation, where the situation, assessment, and treatments are initially different.

Rare-Discipline3774 · 2025-04-21T22:04:37+00:00

It's a start, could use some work.

The name cold(I already forgot what it's called), needs to be workshopped imo.

The premise is hyperfocused on a feminist perspective on why men are lonely, competition.

Which, might be true for some, but not most, and it's certainly not the sole reason for those people. I suggest reading CS Lewis' 4 Loves.

This radio lecture by CS Lewis on the topic of philia, discusses how men used to be, one can surmise that nearly every man had a support system of men before radical feminist lobbies and other groups and major events began to cause negative culture changes among males less than 100 years ago.

I do think it's safe to say that he was wrong on some things, such as the belief that gays could either never experience philia with males, or never experience Eros with males, but that's the kind of thing that happens when you're making a new idea or theory.

https://youtu.be/Uo-jCgWOQXo?si=Qp3RIdIUSfxzAQY1

Historically speaking, this idea that males are in constant competition with one another is absolutely false.

I do think you're on a good start though.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2025-04-21T17:49:27+00:00

I thought this was terrific. Have you asked some other youtubers if they would mention you and your work? Maybe the Pearl, Better Bachelor, Honey Badgers, Carl Benjamin (The Lotus Eaters), Karen Straughan, or Tim Pool?

Complete-Junket-8209 · 2025-04-22T13:59:53+00:00

This is great man you've earned me subscription and a like

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