Advice welcomed but please be kind..side not I have had in the past several big mistakes on my part..been married since 2009. Got married kinda quick then military. Have 3 kiddos 17,14,10. We argue all the time. She thinks things like modifying a car etc. I lot of things I like she doesn't and gives me crap about it here and there. Even though I put on a front we are just 2 different people. I know part reason I've stayed is just for my kids. I've been little scared to do anything just fact of what happens and not being around my kids all the time. We both deserve happiness but I don't think we truly will be keep staying together. I don't wanna be looked at as a failure. Also she tends to attack my past mistakes often and will lead to another argument. She watches all these stories on tik tok and then I get snid comments etc. I love my kids to the moon and back, I just don't wanna seem a failure if I finally decide call it quits.