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It's ok to want to be loved

abramN

June 20, 2025
40 upvotes
/r/MensRights

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edit: original had an AI mistake where "will" in the sign became "vill"

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Title It's ok to want to be loved
Author

abramN

Upvotes 40
Comments 14
Date June 20, 2025 10:39 PM UTC
(1 year ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1lgh7qj/its_ok_to_want_to_be_loved/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/its-ok-to-want-to-be-loved.1555142
https://theredarchive.com/post/1555142
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Comments

[–]TKD1989 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (6 children) | Copy Link

You want to be loved, yet feminists still get to say, "Nobody owes you sex!"

[+]erik_reeds 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (1 child) | Copy Link

both of these statements can be true

[–]TKD1989 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's usually weaponized by feminists to attack male sexuality and loneliness by lumping into stereotypes and saying that "nobody owes you sex" as a form of projection. It's also weaponized to call men who are different from the stereotype "incels" and "neckbeards"

[–]Vegetable_Ad1732 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Men don't owe women money. Or much of anything either. 🤣

[–]ThrowALifeline89 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The government 100% disagrees with your statements. They take money from men and give it to women and only women.

[–]TKD1989 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Feminists: "If you're not rich as a man, you're a complete loser."

Also Feminists: "Women should make more than men! Look at the gender pay gap!"

[–]Vaudeville_Clown 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I could be just as obtuse and mean if I wanted, from the position of being a family man.

I could say "noone is owed parenthood, or having an intact family of their own".

Not that all of them even have that dream, but many have a lingering desire for it that's buried deep down.

But shit behavior is shit, so I don't stoop to it.

[–]ThrowALifeline89 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Women have been groomed to hate men for over a decade now in all of popculture and media. If you are looking for emotional support and affection you might have more look getting that from other men. Although men obliviously are raised consuming mostly the same media so they overwhelmingly(?) support radical feminism. Virtually everyone who doesn't actively work to not be a misandrist is a misandrist - because it has become the default.

[–]SquaredAndRooted 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (4 children) | Copy Link

... But what if you are not hard to love. You are just trying to bloom in a season that hasn’t yet come?

[–]Tumor_with_eyes 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (3 children) | Copy Link

And what if you never bloom?

Or you bloom in a way your current partner doesn’t want?

Too many potential variables for the future.

Focus on “now.” Not “what could be.”

[–]SquaredAndRooted 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough. You’re still showing up. You still hope. That takes more strength than people think. Sometimes people need to hear they’re already doing the brave part

Nevertheless, a gardener will make you bloom and won't care how you do. If only we all learnt to love like gardeners, not like museum curators!

[–]Tumor_with_eyes 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You shouldn’t have to rely on someone else to be your own gardener.

You want to bloom a certain way? Tend to yourself in the fashion you want to grow.

If you always rely on others for which direction you grow towards? You’ll never be happy with how or where you end up.

[–]Vaudeville_Clown 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It could be sufficient, and arguably should, but let's not kid ourselves thinking it's optimal.

[–]Fearless-Scallion498 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Try telling that to Cyntoia Brown.

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