There’s something fundamental in attraction: you have to love yourself and enjoy things like really enjoy doing the things you do. That’s what we call self-amusement.

For example, when you talk to people, it should be because you enjoy talking, you find conversations fun, and you’re having fun too.

But what if I don’t really feel that amusement? I don’t hate these things, but I also don’t feel much joy doing them. I think there’s nothing I do that truly makes me feel amused maybe just a little, or sometimes nothing at all.

I have hobbies, and I can say I like them, but I’m not really having much fun with them, i can truly have fun in doing something once in a loong time!! (Let’s say I enjoy them a bit, but it’s too small to even notice.)

Same with conversations: I can talk, but I don’t really feel amused.

Where’s the problem in that? And is there a solution?

((i am single since years and years, may be this is the reason why it don't work much with women? ))