I’m a 50 year old Christain male and I’ve been married for over 10 years now and this is a second marriage for both. Things started out fantastic but slowed down after our children were born. I’ve been reading and following the red pill for over three years. I make good money and provide for the family. I work out a couple of times a week but need to lose about 20 pounds. I feel like a dancing monkey as my all efforts have had little effect. I get more respect but little attention and affection. We have sex about once a week after a failed initiation or two. I’ve read all the books and attempted to internalize much of the content but she just isn’t into sex. She feels I should be thrilled with once a week as her married friends have sex about once a month if they are lucky. Sex more than once a week is considered an addiction in her mind. She sleeps with a pillow between us and plays on her phone at night after working nonstop. The extent of her affection is a hug in the morning and maybe a goodbye kiss if I’m lucky but most affection goes to the kids. On vacation she improves significantly and it’s like old times but that is rare. Over the past few years, I’ve stepped up my leadership significantly and stopped taking orders from her and being way more proactive. Especially around the house, kids bedtime and discipline, and leading the family to church. I’ve taken over handling bills, dishes and cleaning as we both work. She is a hard worker as well and does plenty. The only thing that seems to cause her to improve is removing my attention completely and then she improves. It feels like manipulation but is only temporary. I’m at a loss with how to improve. I’m just trying to get my needs met about 2-3 times a week but that seems to much to ask. Any suggestions?