My Girlfriend lied about her 'first time' a while later. Claims she was drunk. What do I make of this?

RunawayGrain · 2015-10-26T17:49:18+00:00

Go look up trickle truth. If you really want some fireworks, find out who the guy is, connect with him and get his side. Which will be vastly different.

Here’s my theory:

1) Her first time happened when she was drunk, with a guy she was dating. She doesn't really recall any of it and thinks she passed out. She had lots to drink but remembers kissing him on the bed but after that her memory is blank.

Guy got her tipsy, she got frisky, and did the act. Chances are it wasn't the movie like experience she wanted, though.

This guy is in her city, she sees him sometime, they don't talk only Hi and Bye. He wanted something serious with her after they slept together but she didn't want hence they stopped speaking.

The way I read it, she isn't implying rape, so she consented to it, but she is trying to leave enough leeway to claim she didn't really want to. Any time I hear a girl say she didn't want commitment, I translate it as the guy didn't want to commit to her. She got pumped and dumped. Either that or an Orbiter she had got lucky.

She said she didn't tell me this because it wasn't important and she hadn't seen the importance of it.

She knew it was important, and was a bit 'ashamed' of getting pumped and dumped or banging an orbiter.

fnordsnord · 2015-10-26T17:51:04+00:00

First, double or triple her number. If she admits to two, it's either four or six. When women are counting, expect the following:

1) Oral Doesn't Count 2) Anal (only) doesn't count. 3) Vacation sex doesn't count. 4) Drunk sex doesn't count.

"I don't remember" sounds like bullshit to me as well.

But - and here's the thing - AWALT.

There is enormous pressure on women to have a low N-count. They lie to their GYNECOLOGIST about it they are so afraid of being judged. So don't take it to personally when they lie about it. They lie to themselves.

secret_barber · 2015-10-26T17:13:47+00:00

There has got to be some rational thought about women's sexuality. You're her second partner, get over it. My only concern in her story is her lack of self-control when it comes to drinking. I would be conscious of being a recurring theme.

1NV0K3R · 2015-10-26T17:21:05+00:00

My Girlfriend

First problem.

Second person, but got so drunk she can't remember the first.

Sure thing kiddo.

Guy is in her city, they don't talk.

Probably the only true thing she told you.

Victorboris1 · 2015-10-26T18:03:20+00:00

1) Her first time happened when she was drunk, with a guy she was dating. She doesn't really recall any of it and thinks she passed out.

That's a common lie. Women get drunk, have tons of unprotected sex with total strangers, and then claim they forgot about everything due to booze amnesia. There are more partners she's hiding.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-10-26T21:11:06+00:00

I don't get this. How a girl can say "oh but I was drunk" and use that as justification for redemption against all wrongdoings and moral responsibility is starkly beyond my comprehension. If I get drunk and decide to drive home, while causing an accident killing a bus full of toddlers, can I just say "oh but I was drunk" and get off scott-free? Women can't use the drunk excuse for every sexual encounter and claim it doesn't count.

The more pressing issue is she lied to you. That is a HUGE red flag.

Title	My Girlfriend lied about her 'first time' a while later. Claims she was drunk. What do I make of this?
Author	alpha_buffalo
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Date	October 26, 2015 4:53 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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