Divorce

Red-Curious · 2025-08-16T06:36:29+00:00

I'm going to be super blunt on this and say: this seems like useless victim puking. You said you already made the decision to file for divorce. The Bible doesn't list that as an exception to the "no divorce" principle, so it's a sinful choice. Either own it and follow through or repent. But bringing it up the way you did looks like you're just looking for validation from this community.

To soften up a bit, I get it. I see this situation constantly in my career - where one spouse goes mental. And yes, it often happens at accelerated rates at ages 50+, even without any history of dementia or alzheimer's. I've literally got 2 cases right now where parties are seeking divorce because the other developed paranoid delusions. I see the intense struggle my clients have gone through and the massive pain they've endured trying to "hold it all together" for so long, being the one to do 95% of the effort on that front.

But contemplate your own understanding of life, maturity, wisdom, etc. Think about your own emotional status and how it's affected by your perspective on life. Compare that to God's. In the whole "Christ // Groom and Church // Bride" context, how does He see your mentality compared to his own? He sees clearly, but my guess your own concept of reality, morality, spirituality, maturity, emotionality, etc. looks like you're a lunatic to God because you don't see as clearly as He does. Your brain literally can't process all of these things at his level, and so you make constant stupid and foolish decisions, just as we all do - even far beyond what you realize because, as I'm sure is also true of all of us, we tend to think we're far more God-minded than we really are.

Okay, so in that context, how does God deal with us? Does he say, "u/Dazzling_Result1090 - you've gone psycho, so I'm going to bail on my promise to stay faithful to you"? Nah. He bears the weight of our sin, knowing we're helpless to do any better.

Now, if you are worn down so heavily that remaining married is likely to cause an even greater sin (like murdering your spouse, or physically abusing her, etc.) ... then probably better to take the lesser sin of divorcing her and sending her on her way. I won't fault you for that ... it's between you and God if He will. Your call. We're all stuck in lose-lose situations sometimes. But if you can bear through it, just read Hosea and contemplate how much pain and suffering he bore through on behalf of his wife - all for the sake of being able to understand better how God relates with His people, and you'll find that your wife being a nuissance perhaps gives you the same blessing of a commonality with God that few others get to tout, just as Paul proclaimed that he would boast about his weaknesses, and you can boast about how your suffering gave you a unique insight on the person of Christ that you can bond with him over, and in ways that few others get to bond over such shared commisery.

ruizbujc · 2025-08-16T04:45:01+00:00

As a divorce lawyer ... once you have the legal separation, why bother with the divorce? The only distinction is that you can't remarry. At least in my state, that's it.

aseeder · 2025-08-16T04:54:04+00:00

Just sincerely, deeply reason with God, whether this is your cross to bear. I assume that your wife is having schizophrenia, so perhaps you can ask for some other perspectives in r/schizofamilies. From schizophrenia sufferer point of view (thank God I am greatly recovered), this is indeed a devastating and mentally debilitating illness. The sufferer world, reality is a distorted, can be deeply confusing and frustating one. If you decide to try caring for her, I just gonna say that love covers all things, beliefs all things, hopes all things, bears all things. And perfect love casts out fear. At least that was happened to me. Regarding your son, I am sorry for your loss🙏 I hope God will give you wisdom, strength, and courage to cope with you and your wife circumstances.

Wooper160 · 2025-08-17T00:25:58+00:00

She needs help from doctors

Dazzling_Result1090 · 2025-08-15T22:47:23+00:00

I am 70 years old. I have been a Christian for 40.. I would like to have some peace of mind. Staying with her is miserable.. divorce has stigma and is scary. She can still function and has a son near by.. so she is safe.. plus she lives in the house we own.

Dazzling_Result1090 · 2025-08-17T00:34:02+00:00

Definitely reconsidering.. The reason I want to divorce is 1. Everything is in place with the Separation..one more step 2. I could re marry 3. I might finally have some peace of mind…. But now I am realizing that peace of mind and a loving wife and happiness are not guaranteed either.

Dazzling_Result1090 · 2025-08-17T00:42:32+00:00

I am not “ looking for validation from this community “ any more than from anyone else.. the decision is on me . I only present the problem here for insight that I can consider.. this “community” isn’t the first resource i have consulted.

steadfastkingdom · 2025-08-16T03:01:30+00:00

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Title	Divorce
Author	Dazzling_Result1090
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	August 15, 2025 10:39 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RPChristians
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