I noticed something off.

Whole_Thanks_612 · 2025-08-27T00:50:45+00:00

Hey I get you. We all have problems, some more serious than others, but always, every single time, the first step is going to be accepting that we have a problem, then, we can work towards solving it.

You mentioned porn. I will say it like it is, porn is a drug. Terrible drug. And I would take an educated guess here and say that you don’t just watch the porn, you also masturbate. Maybe I’m wrong, but these go hand by hand. I think everybody has watched porn at some time in their life, some get addicted, some don’t. It’s like playing with fire.

The girl you saw, think about why you didn’t have the confidence to approach her. I would guess it’s fear of rejection.

So, if you lack confidence, it’s because you know you’re not perfect, nobody is, but we need to try to better ourselves every day.

So, if I were you, this is what I would do: 1. Block every porn site. I don’t know if you watch it on twitter, Google, it could be anywhere, block it, he’ll even delete the app if it’s necessary. You can’t expect to never watch porn again because we have to take into account that behind this there is an addiction, but by cutting off your access to porn, you are minimizing your chances of falling again.

You will get the urge of watching it, run from it, don’t try to fight it, because that is a losing battle. Distract yourself, a movie, people, or, what brings me to my next point, exercise.

You say you have a decent starting point, that is very good. Lifting weights has so many benefits, you will be healthier, it might work as a distraction from porn, and you will look better, which will help you with your confidence and your appeal with women.

By working on yourself, not only will you look better, but you will have more confidence. And your problems will start solving by themselves.

Your friend group, if you don’t feel comfortable with them, leave them dude, or tease them back, but with confidence, this problem will solve as well.

So work on yourself, build yourself, work on your addictions and your social status.

As for women, use something that is called “The three second rule”, it basically means that you have 3 seconds to approach after seeing a woman before you start double thinking it.

Lastly, I would recommend you read: “The Game: Penetrating the secret society of pickup artists”

It talks about the story of Neil Strauss also known as “style”, his path to becoming the best pick up artist in the world. And helps you achieve your wildest dreams when it comes to women, best book I’ve ever read.

So yeah dude, anything else, just ask, that’s why this community is here.

KYLE_FREELAND · 2025-08-27T05:50:09+00:00

What’s that saying, “Rome wasn’t built overnight” or some shit like that? Rebuilding yourself takes time, and lots of it.

Start slow. Start working out, it builds not only your body, but also your confidence, especially once you start seeing gains.

Start reading. That was my first step, and it greatly improved my thought process and what ultimately made me start working out.

Once you’re in the right mindset and your body is starting to look good, you can then go to the next step which is talking to women. You look good and you know it. Rejection happens to everyone. Before this, I’d recommend just trying to talk with everyone you can.. whether it’s a bar patron sitting next to you or the cashier taking your order, just a quick little chat to improve your social skills.

It’s a process, but one that is worth diving into head first. Lots of sound advice in this sub that I’ve taken in. Dig deep brother we’ve all been there.

And yea, quit the porn.

PHP333 · 2025-08-27T12:44:41+00:00

Porn makes you think of woman as objects and not people and causes you to put pussy on a pedestal so you are afraid to approach.

Title	I noticed something off.
Author	Plastic-Okra441
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	August 26, 2025 10:24 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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