Im a 32 yo black and So here is what imma do for myself so i can better myself and stop losing women.

So my issue is i have a good mindset about this, but i have a tendency to overshare and its not with just women but with people in general and i think it’s a symptom of add or something.

I noticed that i can be sensitive and not take criticism, advice and be in my feelings at times.

So here is what imma do!

Im going to do a comfort zone challenge where i do something that give me anxiety and imma cut out things holding me back.

Videogames i use to be addicted to but i gotten jaded with them Imma stop watching porn. Im throwing away old clothes with stains and stuff that doesn’t fit me right or goes with my style right now. Imma work on building tough skin by practicing not caring or taking people opinions too seriously Imma humble myself with who i can attract in the current moment and work towards attracting them

Imma change my personality, i talk and act a certain way that annoys people and act childish at my age Imma learn social skills, social ques and build emotional intelligence Imma practice approach and conversation with new people because MAN DO I LOVE DOING IT AND WANT A NEW CIRCLE OF PEOPLE Imma read more books, so i can keep myself busy and focus more on building a better relationship with woman as it is.

One thing i can say is i recognize alot of flaws and not blaming others on my poor success.

Im going to grow out of my social isolation and anti ways.

In shorts checklist Confidence Social skills Hygiene and style Anxiety and depression fixed(figure out why i am) Fixing my posture and personality(be less timid and more high energy and confident) Focus on what i share, and not overshare my personal problems and let them talk more. Find a solid and or switch jobs(my job environment is very toxic and makes me anxious and hate to be there) Don’t go out less Focus more on real life interactions and stop using dating apps because i am socially inept in person. hit the gym. Stop drinking and smoking to cope for my anxiety.

Sorry for the long thread but I really wanna a more successful life with dating and outside dating.

Any advice on how to attack these things and get better lmk.