How do you see the process of talking to women?

Your perspective is everything. If you view it the wrong way, you’ll judge yourself, and every interaction will feel like an uphill battle.

But if you see it as something normal, human, and completely adequate, suddenly the whole thing becomes much lighter.

Talking to women is already challenging enough. Rejection stings, your ego gets tested, your nerves get shaky. Why add an extra layer of shame on top of that?

The way I see myself is simple: I’m a straight guy who likes women, and so I talk to them. That’s it. The only difference is that over the years I’ve learned to do it with confidence and playfulness, and that makes women respond a lot better.

It’s not tricks. It’s not magic. It’s not some robotic routine. It’s me, a normal guy, showing up and communicating in a way that works. That’s why I don’t carry shame about it, which a lot of men secretly do.

And that shame? It’s poison. It keeps guys from practicing. It makes them think what they’re doing is wrong, or fake, or manipulative. But here’s the truth: the only reason they feel that way is because they believe the story that “flirting equals pickup artist.”

My view is different. I’m just talking to women. Yes, I’ve developed some structure in how I communicate, but the majority of what I say is improvisational, spontaneous, and in the moment. And that’s how I like it.

When conversation flows playfully, that’s when it feels alive. That mindset has allowed me to keep doing this for over a decade, without shame, without needing to hide it. That’s why all my family and even my parents’ friends know exactly what I do - and I don’t feel weird about it.

Think about it: there are billions of straight men in the world. If you like women, doesn’t it make sense you’d want to talk to them? I’m not some alien “pickup guru.” I’m in the same bucket as you, the only difference is I’ve practiced a way that gets better results.

If you want to get good at this, if you want charisma, wit, and confidence then you need to start seeing it the same way. Not as some shady game, not as manipulation, but as communication. As learning how to show intent through your eye contact, your body language, your humor, your decision-making.

Because if you obsess over labels like “pickup artist,” or waste time dividing men into “high value” and “low value,” you’ll miss the actual point: learning to connect with women in a way that feels authentic and powerful.