I am getting to divorced. 48m two kids 8 and 10. Wife soon to be divorced announced to me she wants out. She never believed in monogamy and tried to tell me for years, so she says. We met in travel 2008 and married in 2011. September 2023 a tenant moved into our house. She was very keen to have this lady move in. Turns out she fell in love with her and I beleive was the catalyst of this divorce. The tenant moved out last april. She calls herself queer now. She is thinks I am a chauvinist and sees hers self as a feminist. Basically I beleive she hates men. Anyway, April 2024 it all came to a head and we separated and put the house on the market June last year. It's still not sold. I left the house in November and stayed with my parents until July this year. The sold their place so I have moved back in. Since then it's been great to be near my boys as we have been 50:50 coparenting, but there is a but. The but is she has been severely hostile every single day. We were only emailing each other and have a connnucation arrangement to protect the kids, so they do not hear us bickering. That has all gone out the window and she just berates me at every opportunity in front of my two boys. I am at my wits end. I can't go anywhere and neither can she, her mum lives in Moscow. I am wringing this as i am seriously considering a non molestation or occupation order. This would as her thrown out. I can't let my boys see this hostility and her swearing and name calling me. Today she said in front of the 10 year old i look like a rat and she hates me and she has no inclination to be nice to me at all. She said she will not let me sell the house and throw her and kids on the street unless she is home with her asset protected as she put money in the house. She is literally scaring the kids and it's nonsense, we have an agreement where she would get 60:40 split as have more earning power. I also took on a lot of debt to keep the house and pay mortgage payments. Financially put to one side what should i do. She is ck stanton gaslighting me and unilaterally trying to make financial decisions. I always keep my calm and remind her it's shameful this behaviour, she doesn't care. I feel unsafe and I don't know what to do. She is always vile in the mornings everything is a tantrum. She's been on antidepressants for about 9 years and i'm sure they don't work. she's all over the place emotionally but mostly in a negative way.