Please dont come in here telling me I have oneitis. I know this chick is replaceable and my happiness is in no way contigent upon her. Still, I would like to get back with her at some point. I appreciate any help towards that
Long story short, I had her pretty mad for me. I started off around greater beta, found the pill in July and became more alpha around then, although before I still did pretty well. I took her virginity and was also the first guy to finger her or get head from her. Sex was on tap. She wrote my poems about "my sweet touch" and about how she loved me. This mostly happened a week before I broke up with her. We began dating in April, were apart from may till late june due to college stuff. Broke up with her in mid september. Been no contact the whole time minus the accidental skype call.
One day I tried to Downgrade her to FWB and it went weird. Eventually 4 days later I called her and said I wanted to talk. I told her I had decided I liked her and would rather be with her than bang random girls. She cried a lot and we almost fucked but just before fucking she started crying more. She seemed mad, and just before leaving while crying said "now you can fuck other girls" two days later the paragraph texts roll in about how she misses me but she doesnt trust me and thinks that within a week ill change my mind and dump her again. I reply coldly and tell her to get out to my apartment in skirts and stockings, and that that doesnt mean we are getting back together. she is at some volunteer retreat which she cant leave. she seems mad and thinks i only want to fuck her. She comes over on sunday to talk, acts indifferent, and leaves after a minute as I had our sex shit out on the dresser. Tuesday I try some beta game I text her saying I miss falling asleep with her with her cold feet on my legs. I figured some beta would assuage the fears. She texts back saying shes moved on and that I need to as well. We text some more and she sends me more paragraphs about how she thinks I wouldnt actually stick with it and that within a week Id say I didnt mean anything I said. I go out to her dorm to talk to her, she is trying actively not to have fun.
She lets me pick her up, she hugs me, lets me slap her ass. Acts v aloof the whole time. I get up to her room, and am in her bed. She tells me to get out. I get up to turn off the light to get back in her bed, and we get in a fight of turning the light on and off. She picks up her phone and just generally acts weird. I leave and pat her on the head. two days later she is drinking at my neighbors. I go over not knowing she is there and soon after get her into my apartment, we speak cuddling, i lie on top of her. I tell her that if we get back together I wont hurt her, very cheesy shit, and tell her to ask me if i mean it. She does, I say yes, and she gets all teary.
She says she needs to step out for a minute and think about it. She does, comes back in, and says she cant do it. She tells me she has gotten back with her ex, an uber beta and virgin as far as i know. He took weeks to kiss her and said it made him nervous. She tells me they have fucked when I mentioned I still want her after fucking other girls. I call BS or (maybe she did because she needed cheering up). He is leaving the country in December.
I tell her that if shes done with the relationship because she doesnt like me, thats fine, I dont care she can leave, but if she doesnt trust me, and thats the reason to stay. She stays. She shit tests me some, I pass okay but not with my usual flying colors. Soon after I tell her she can leave. She stays up for two more hours rather than sleeping, and tweets song lyrics about how shes "made up her mind over and over"
Within about two weeks she tweets song lyrics from a band I introduced her to which was about a girl messing around with a guy she should have known better to, in all caps. She also favorites tweets about getting through tough times, sadness etc, and two weeks later retweets general negativity towards an ex BS. She also favorites tweets from that Adelle "hello from the other side” song which is basically about an old relationship that no longer talks to eachother. Its important to note I never contacted her after the last night we spoke in person. While she is ovulating, on her tumblr which she doesnt know I am aware of, she reblogs a bunch of shit about missing someone, getting over people "doing better" a picture captioned "I woke up wanting to kiss you". This is all about two weeks post break up. General BS like that.
November 6th I accidentally called her on skype at 7pm. She got online skype at ten pm, I appeared online at 11. She messaged me a ? mark. I didnt see it, stayed on for twenty minutes and went offline. The next morning this exchange occurs.
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I go offline, she stays on for three more hours then goes offline as well. 24 hours later she removes me from skype. three days later she favorites a tweet about how "you cant grow as a person if you keep going/looking back at the same person. Go out and meet someone new and fun". We Still have not spoken. At this point I dont feel like I can provide any comfort to this girl and the only thing to do is be so alpha that she has to come back because I am the best she can do.
My friends tell me she is between a 5.5 and a 6.5. I'd appreciate what you think of the situation, and what you think I ought to do. Current plan is to stay no contact, stay lifting, perhaps contact her in a few months. She thinks I am a "fuckboy" which is dumb milennial speak for player. She is 19 and I am twenty. She was bullied a little as a child if that is relevant, and to my knowledge never really had a boyfriend in high school. She kissed maybe three people before me, but does seem to have a penchant for partying and drinking, which I see as a red flag, but not uncommon for a girl repressed in high school who is now in college.
I have a few guesses here.
She still likes me and is doing some weird comfort / shit testing
She is over me
She doesnt think I actually like her, and wants it to be my idea for us to get back together. Granted, I gave her a good lowball on skype.
She wants to wait till this guy leaves in December and try to get back with me. which wont happen, id plate her for months first before taking her back mono.
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