I’ve been with my souse for 14 years, married for 10 and we have an 8 year old. My SO has been the light of my life and I love them with all my heart but something just feels different now. I recently went through a massive mental breakdown where I confronted some serious issues from my childhood and now that I’ve mostly got through it(seeing a therapist) I’ve found myself struggling to communicate with my SO to the point of agitation. It seems like whenever I’ve tried advocating for myself my SO is usually walled off and tries to push whatever issue that is happening back to me. Sometimes it is just a lot to deal with and now I have really think about the things I say, how I say them and everything to avoid a fight. It’s been a struggle to connect and even in times of happiness we can still get to butting heads. We have definitely had more fights than we have ever had and it’s very draining. I don’t know where I’m at with all of it and I do worry about what this means. I’ve been told that people just outgrow people even if you still love them. Does anyone have any advice?