This video made me (M24) realize what was missing from my personality: competition and aggression

Scrace89 · 2025-12-30T02:59:05+00:00

Combat sports are an important relational and humbling tool for male development.

Living-Intention1802 · 2025-12-30T03:16:34+00:00

It’s pretty rare for a woman to admit the injustice done to boys and men in the education system. Based on my research, I believe the stat four to one more scholarships awarded to women than men is accurate

crtin4k · 2025-12-30T14:33:51+00:00

Aggression and hostility are the main things I hated about male friendships growing up. I want friends who lift me up, not put me down. I really don’t think insulting others is a trait that’s intrinsic to men, or something we should celebrate.

I can see the value in overcoming a challenge, but humans are pack hunters. We are more successful when we work together. We’re made to feel empathy for one another and receive positive emotional feedback when we help others.

brainquantum · 2025-12-30T10:27:48+00:00

This is a post I can relate to... During my teenage years, I was quite introverted, but on the other hand, I was academically gifted and surprisingly good at sports too (I was tall and thin). So, for sports like swimming and tennis, for example, it worked well. Now, sports with more "contact," and I'm not just talking about combat sports, but like basketball, for example, I tried a little, but it didn't work out. I was always uncomfortable, slow to react, etc. So, since I was uncomfortable, let's just say I never pushed it, and my parents, let's say, also shared this view that the important thing is to participate, not to compete.

This means that I spent 10 years in a swimming club in my town, two sessions a week, and I think I only participated in one competition... tennis too, several years in a club, but with the exception of small internal tournaments for the group I was in, I never did a single competition (and I'm not even talking about professional competitions), just local competitions, inter-club competitions, etc... never did anything at all...

well, between us, I intuitively realized that something was missing to progress... but since I was doing well with my studies, etc. I think I stayed in my intellectual comfort zone and forgot about physical competition. I think I was very much considered "risk-adverse" (note that in university studies, there's obviously a form of competition, but not of the same nature and not requiring the same "qualities," and at the time I didn't realize that competitive physical sports also help in this regard).

Anyway, it took several years for me to decide to get back into it... I watched a lot of combat sports videos (not boxing, but more like taekwondo or HEMA) and I thought it was cool... I started doing HEMA, for example (I tried karate/taekwondo a little, it was cool, but I think I started too late with those). I don't know if it will help with anything in particular at my stage, but I do enjoy it.

I've also noticed that many people in my professional circle, who hold leadership positions at certain levels, often practice this type of sport. I think that one-on-one sparring helps in the end to manage fear, build confidence, and handle conflicts...?

vap0rtranz · 2025-12-30T16:52:21+00:00

My husband and I wrestle sometimes. (I'm gay.) It's NOT erotic, or abusive. We're like 2 young siblings seeing who is stronger that day. Lots of smiles and laughs afterwards.

I remember a friend trying to shutdown some playful wrestling that 2 other guys were doing. My friend was a woman. I didn't see the problem. She said it was wrong. It's interesting ... maybe most women don't get it. There's a difference in how the wrestling is done between men, and I do find that it can be healthy.

eluusive · 2026-01-02T01:49:52+00:00

I feel that dude. I was mostly an only child. I have one sister who is a decade older than me and mostly moved away when I was 10 years old.

Conservatarian1 · 2025-12-30T03:06:01+00:00

Join the military. You’ll get all the competition you can handle. You’ll also get a ton of confidence.

There’s hundreds of careers in the military that have nothing to do with fighting on the front lines. The Air Force and Space Force aren’t fighting anyone boots on ground (unless you want that.)

Title	This video made me (M24) realize what was missing from my personality: competition and aggression
Author	SavageCabbage11
Upvotes	53
Comments	11
Date	December 30, 2025 2:40 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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