I started meditating a few weeks ago with the sole purpose of making peace with the present moment and here are the things that I have learned and noticed that changed my dating life.

1) RELATIONSHIPS OR SEX WILL NOT GIVE YOU PEACE OF MIND.

I have been the guy who slept with different girls every week, been in years long relationships and also went without any dates for months. Guess what? Internally I was the same person. Unfulfilled and lacking peace. Meditation made me comfortable and secure with myself which brought me peace and now I’m not emotionally dependent on girls or sex. Now I WANT them, don’t NEED them. Same way I want to play video games but don’t need it to feel happy or fulfilled.

2) BEING CALM AND RELAXED IS AS ATTRACTIVE AS BEING GOOD LOOKING

Being comfortable with myself made my body language and personality calm, confident and relaxed when talking to girls or on a date and almost every girl has mentioned it to me how attracted and safe it makes them feel and a few of them told me how even good looking guys who act nervous or insecure turns them off.

3) BEING BRUTALLY HONEST WITHOUT CARING ABOUT APPROVAL OR VALIDATION

Girls like guys who have internal leadership qualities. And having a fixed world view shows that. A lot guys try to copy social trends or form a fake personality which is “cool” or “fun” to impress girls or to seek approval of others which is the opposite of leadership. Being brutally honest and transparent about your opinions or goals or perspective on life doesn’t matter how boring or weird or opposite it is from the society will make you 10 times more attractive than the cool guy trying to fit in without any fixed way of living life.

4) EVERY GUY IS BORN WITH BUILT-IN NATURAL CONFIDENCE AND CHARISMA.

This is the most important thing I have learned. Your entire personality is built on things your mind has gathered over the years which makes you think acting or talking a certain way is “correct” because everybody says so. That is the opposite of being natural and authentic. The more you live in your head trying to overthink and complicate simple things the harder time you’ll have with girls. When you start living out of your head, being in the present moment your natural personality will start to come out. You already have built-in “mating tactics” the same way your attraction towards females is built-in. So let go of your social conditioning and you will naturally become confident and charismatic.