I got a cute girl's number at the gym. How long should I wait before texting her?

Matter_Still · 2026-02-12T08:13:58+00:00

I will never understand why guys today ask for a number or IG and call it a day.

The process not all that long ago was much more direct and if a girl was attracted to you, you made small talk, asked her out, and then cemented it by getting her phone number.

“I’m running late. How about _________ tomorrow?”

She’ll agree or offer a counterproposal.

THEN you get her phone number and say “I’ll touch base tomorrow to make sure we’re still good.”

That’s it. Immediate feedback. No angling for a date with unnecessary chatter or texting. You’ve pushed your chips to the center of the table.

If she takes a pass you just casually say, “Maybe another time. Enjoy the weekend.” (or whatever).

readerr33 · 2026-02-12T05:46:38+00:00

do it right away

epimpstyle · 2026-02-12T09:58:39+00:00

Why would you wait? To show you're not needy and that you have abundance? Over text, silence doesn’t communicate confidence. You think you're signaling that you're smooth, but silence can mean a hundred different things, and none of them work in your favor.

Beautiful-Ask-3814 · 2026-02-13T20:35:11+00:00

Don't overthink it.

Message her with some callback humor to your interaction, with your name at the end. Then angle for a date within a few back and forth messages.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-02-12T03:08:27+00:00

Here is a texting guide for you.

In general, aim to get her on a date, without endless texting. No reason for excessive attraction either. Just enough to be smooth and then straight into logistics

Title	I got a cute girl's number at the gym. How long should I wait before texting her?
Author	imamuffin18
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Date	February 12, 2026 2:17 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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