“I want to have my cake and eat it too.”

OldTigerLoyalist · 2026-03-11T05:45:24+00:00

So basically they want to break Gender norms as long as it's men making the effort and not the women? Bruh.

Specialist_Load_9953 · 2026-03-11T03:19:07+00:00

She is literally behaving as if she was the description of how women behave in a red pill transcript; she’s speaking purely from a position in consideration of her feelings and how it makes her feel. There is absolutely no consideration to logic at all; to suggest that you’d end a relationship with a man; simply because he would not get down on one knee and propose to you, seconds after suggesting how much you love them and want to spend your life with them, lacks any critical thought or logic, to give up something so important, over something so small is wild.

BuilderAcceptable442 · 2026-03-11T00:49:20+00:00

Only because she wants, doesn't mean men have obligation to give/do what she wants.

AbysmalDescent · 2026-03-11T16:21:38+00:00

Women taking risks, taking ownership of their own love lives and taking initiatives would all be part of being a better egalitarian or, at the very least, opposing existing gender norms. If you expect men to do something you wouldn't do, because of gender, you're just being sexist. So, you either want the proposal, which means you should be willing to do it yourself, or you should get rid of the expectation altogether and approach marriage differently.

mikiencolor · 2026-03-15T02:29:09+00:00

OK clawhands. 🤣

She doesn't love her boyfriend. She's literally talking about him and "any man" as a cog she could easily replace within months and have another husband. You don't talk about someone you love as some "thing" you can replace within months - that's the language you use for an appliance. She says herself the only time she is down on her knees is to fellate. What is that? Prostitution. That's all it is. This is a prostitute.

That is what most heterosexual relationships are, unfortunately, and the reason is that this is what most people are actually looking for - long-term prostitution arrangements. But they're embarrassed to admit it, so they appropriate the language of "love" to describe it.

That is the elephant in the room. For those of us who do not mean a long-term prostitution arrangement when we talk about wanting love, we just need to recognize we're weird. Most people aren't like us, unfortunately. It's silly to talk about the simulated companionship in a prostitution arrangement as if it were a genuine 'loving relationship'. We're just not talking about the same things, which is why we're talking past each other.

Title	“I want to have my cake and eat it too.”
Author	meeralakshmi
Upvotes	55
Comments	15
Date	March 10, 2026 10:30 PM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/everydaymisandry/comments/1rqbrhk/i_want_to_have_my_cake_and_eat_it_too/
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