Something is driving me crazy

vertascend · 2026-03-14T01:55:26+00:00

Sounds like you’re not ready to be married; you love her but you haven’t experienced life nearly enough to be content with settling; you want more and you realize that there is more to you; you my friend have a bit of soul searching to do because you will feel whelmed by the pressure… talk to her; wedding is not tomorrow… postpone it and actually do the things you want to do and if possible have her involved… and if you don’t want to then that’s your choice…. But you don’t want to have regrets later… I’ll tell you that much… and you also don’t want her to be invested and then break her heart… that’s already happened to her once…. Do some soul searching buddy

BurnItDownSR · 2026-03-14T08:03:23+00:00

If you look at it in a different way, imagine how her exes and other rich guys who are interested in her feel thinking about how they can give her so much more yet she still prefers you.

Its kinda like the feeling you get watching an uglier guy get girls left and right while you're over here struggling.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-03-14T10:28:36+00:00

Luckily for most people, cost ≠ enjoyment.

That said, if you're unsure about the 'value' of being engaging, charismatic, interacting with her in ways to create that enjoyment and make her feel good; keeping her attention with you, reliably and sustainably; I certainly wouldn't be getting married. Though, I have a firm grasp and still wouldn't, so there's that.

eablokker · 2026-03-14T02:12:42+00:00

Your thoughts about the rich guys she dated before are coming up because you have a suppressed emotion of feeling inadequate, and that emotion is leaking out and taking the form of these thoughts. It’s ok to feel inadequate sometimes, it’s normal. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that you are good enough, I’m just gonna say that just because you feel not good enough doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s just a normal feeling to have sometimes. Allow it to be there and be felt without being fooled by it.

She wants to be with you because of how you make her feel. She can’t get that from just any guy with money. You’d rather have that than it be a cold calculated decision based on you being rich. Imagine if you were rich and she despised you but decided to fake being into you to get your money. That’s your other option. That’s fucking horrible. What you have is far better and the genuine thing.

People who grew up rich have already experienced all the fancy restaurant bullshit and they’ve learned that it doesn’t really make them happy. They’re bored of it. They want something more real.

It’s normal to feel unhappy when you reach a big goal. That’s just how it works. Happiness is found in the progress towards a goal, not in the final attainment. You just need to set new, bigger goals. Congrats on getting engaged!

You should talk about this stuff to a therapist before you get married, or even together as a couple with a therapist. Get your lives going together on the right foot. Don’t wait until there are unresomvable problems before talking to a therapist.

Title	Something is driving me crazy
Author	Zack72783
Upvotes	4
Comments	4
Date	March 14, 2026 1:16 AM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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