Stay at home, father fighting false allegations against mentally ill wife

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-03-25T22:33:00+00:00

Your wife has been coached well. False domestic violence is right out of the women's playbook to secure primary custody.

You must retain a criminal law attorney and fight the Protection Order. You must resolve the PO before you can address the supervised parenting time. If you try to move your custody battle ahead with the PO looming over your head, you are going to lose. Big time.

King County is not kind to fathers, and you're seeing that first hand.

You must retain an attorney, even if you put the retainer on a credit card. You cannot DIY this because you have exactly one chance to get it right. There are no do-overs here, and the mother is already ten steps ahead of you. Change your mindset from "I can't" to "How do I" to start solving problems.

Here's how you find an attorney in your area: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1c2n16i/fundamentals_you_need_a_family_law_attorney/

henrysmyagent · 2026-03-25T21:51:11+00:00

Brother, I am so sorry you have to swim through hell like this.

Keep your kids in mind at all times. Their wellbeing is directly threatened by your b unstable ex.

Keep telling everyone who will listen the truth.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2026-03-25T21:27:16+00:00

Damn, another "silver bullet" divorce.

Read about it in this subreddit my man. God speed and stay strong.

ToughPill · 2026-03-25T19:05:59+00:00

Do not act erratically or in a way that is consistent with her false allegations. Abide by the orders of the court. Understand that part of this is they are looking to see what you do. If you violate orders they will just be convinced she was right.
Get a lawyer and prepare detailed documentation to prove that her allegations are false. This needs to be presented to the judge, they aren’t going to just take your word for it.
Recognize that the judge will often defer on the side of safety when someone comes making allegations, but the momentum flips when you show that things were false.
Undergo a forensic psychological evaluation or a parenting evaluation by a forensic psychologist so that they can appear at trial and objectively report that you ARE a good parent.
Ask that your spouse be required to undergo forensic psychological evaluation by the court. They will probably make you pay, but if they uncover the issues you think are there then it will be worth it. Don’t try to tell the court whatever the mental illness is you think is there. They will not like you saying a specific illness unless a licensed professional diagnoses them.
Document your engagement and good parenting with your children.

I am 2 years into the process. I survived a false criminal allegation and a criminal trial.

Title	Stay at home, father fighting false allegations against mentally ill wife
Author	IllustratorWooden983
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	March 25, 2026 1:03 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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