It's so stupid. Feminists only look at men being seen as the default in roles and positions that have (and also historically had) the expectation of men doing it. They never look at all of the times where women are the default such as the primary caretaker of a child or overal caretaker positions usually being expected to be done by women, and almost every other position, profession or role that was historically mostly done by women and which are still dominated by women. Feminists never mention how women benefit from being seen as the default in these positions.

I would personally much rather be seen as the default in all of the female dominated aspects of society. The fact that I have to listen to have I supposedly benefit from being the "default" gender without anyone looking at the complete picture is extremely tiring.