for the past two nights I have talked to the most beautiful girls after searching all night - like really connected at the end of the night and then... they say goodbye and I take that as a rejection and decide to leave it at that and go home kicking and screaming at myself

kurt_85 · 2026-06-26T10:31:53+00:00

I made the same mistake in the past.. I think it's related to wanting to get to such a perfect point of the interaction before asking their contact, but that point of perfection will never arrive

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-26T07:23:16+00:00

What is your goal? What do you want to accomplish out of the interaction for you to feel like it's a win?

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-06-26T11:00:42+00:00

Tell us more about your interaction. No way we know what’s going on since we weren’t there.

What makes you think that you talked too much about yourself?
How was their reaction when interacting with you? Because “really connected” could be a misleading feeling. As if your brain tells you the convo was good but the other party feels like they wanna kill themselves. So you gotta see visible reactions. Did they also talk as much as you? Did they ask some questions back to you? Did they touch your arm or shoulder when talking to you? Did they smile and laugh a lot?

Then-Task6480 · 2026-06-26T19:04:50+00:00

Just do it. you will learn more from 10 failures than 10 flaccids.

You end up with the same result either way whether you ask or not. However. One you learn from. The other your regret.

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2026-06-27T00:19:43+00:00

Personal experience from my youth (that’s the disco era, late 1970s — early 1980s. Cellphones and WiFi didn’t exist.): I’d go home with a pocket full of phone numbers written on cocktail napkins and matchbooks … and no pussy.

My lesson? I quit asking for phone numbers. I got bold & started inviting the gals to leave with me… and it was as if my luck did a 180.

You’ll learn how to verbalize your invitations. Some gals you’ll want to suggest going somewhere else for quiet conversation; some you can invite to a late night dinner; some will respond to an invitation to go back to your place; and some you can bluntly ask, “wanna fuck?” You’ll have to learn how to read her body language & the situation. As I did.

Additional advice: don’t wait until closing time to strike.

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