What if your girl starts putting less effort into her appearance?

[deleted] · 2015-12-28T15:02:00+00:00

I had this happen with an LTR of mine. Her complacency stopped when I befriended and started regularly hanging out with a girl from one of my classes. This was pre-TRP, but the concept of dread game still existed in my mind and it worked for me.

_eskimo_brothers_ · 2015-12-28T15:08:36+00:00

You bring it up because it clearly is not what you want.

Many non-trp readers these days would say you're being shallow, but in a way this is what happens in many LTRs people do get complacent. The getting comfortable and falling into less effort is a slope, that can snowball. Are you speaking about lounging around or that she puts less effort into looking good while being out and about with you? If it's the latter, it's because she feels she "has" you so to speak.

I'd also suggest starting some indirect dread game, I hope you are lifting and putting effort into progressing your body in itself. If you are, that alone can show dread. If you're looking crisp she'll see this and likely mirror it or at least comment on it.

mr_nate_ · 2015-12-28T17:24:10+00:00

Like someone else said, at the core of this it really doesn't matter if it's a problem or not — you don't like it and therefore you should guide her to go back to being a hottie 24/7 around you.

She's doing this because she views you as "safe" — someone who will stick with her at least for a while — whereas before she thought you could hop the train at any second. Dread game is probably the best course of action, but don't make it seem obvious. Read up thoroughly on that shit.

medik13 · 2015-12-28T17:29:48+00:00

i'm curious about this also, does anyone have any ideas on what happens if she continues to let herself go and you allow it?

[deleted] · 2015-12-29T01:02:16+00:00

Read "8 Signs You Should Break Up With A Girl" at returnofkings.com

especially this:

"8. Gets sloppy in her dress, habits, speech, or hygiene."

"Like gaining weight, losing her gracefulness portends bigger problems. The moment a girl stops trying to impress you, she’s checked out of your relationship. Depending on how attractive she is, the next guy who hits that switch in her brain will be granted an interview for your job."

daddymonsterpoodle · 2015-12-29T09:17:06+00:00

Withdraw from her a little. Respond when she makes an effort. Go out more by yourself, go to the gym more. Get a nice haircut, buy some new clothes. You don't have to fuck someone in front of her to generate dread.

randarrow · 2015-12-28T15:37:24+00:00

Dude, makeup is poison and burping is necessary. Pick your battles, make sure she is eating right, bathing right, getting right amount of sun, and keeping up gym time; she does things things she's gonna look great and be happy.

Search 'lead in makeup' or 'mercury in makeup' in google for proof of the makeup is poison thing.

Title	What if your girl starts putting less effort into her appearance?
Author	refusewool
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Date	December 28, 2015 2:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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