From an early age my parents' relationship was really messed up, and I was living in a household where love was missing and screams were commonplace. Naturally, as an isolated child, it caused me to develop language-related skills and emotions management too late.

School was hurtful, and it sorts of elevated all the gender-specific troubles boys go through. The following discussion explains my view on the early responsibility placed on boys, how it structures itself moving up the education system, and how it continues in the work market.

I remember growing up with a hard feeling of unfairness. I was having a lot of trouble going through classes, having less than 4 or 5 hours of sleep each day; I was constantly struggling to learn how to read and write. Education quickly felt like shame and punishments.

While anyone having a hard time early on, boy or girl, would feel persecuted, I started to notice how boys were treated differently. Adults were not showing the same patience with how boys expressed themselves and did not care why they failed, making shortcuts on the reasons for their inability to learn.

Maybe it is how impersonal our education system is, by changing teachers every year and not having time to create an emotional bond that allows them to go beyond on-the-spot situation handling that school teachers do. But two things caught my attention.

The first was the constant lack of empathy for my situation. I did not display the right set of emotions people expect, leading to rejection rather than attachment. Girls that struggled were not punished like boys for expressing their difficulties, might it be with learning or living with others. The feeling of being punished because you make mistakes like any child that experiences your situation is awful. It puts the blame on you, like you are 8 years old and are responsible for who you are and how you behave. And it just keeps piling up, as you are punished in repetition until you no longer value yourself.

The second point was how male teachers acted more kindly. Their presence was reassuring and the blame was less. While they were not bulletproof to the emotional toll a messed-up child takes, they were not abusive in our way of expression. It made me avoid girls and women early on and develop a feeling of constant judgement that never really went away.

Then it continued on to middle school and high school. Every year nobody cared about me; my behavior and struggle were my own fault. At least punishments and critics made sure to make me feel that way.

Despite all of this, I went to college and earned a diploma. But entering the workforce during my internships and then for my first job made me realize how the blame keeps piling up.

Any child or teenager that grew up in a bad environment carries a handicap others don't directly see, and against how formatted working environments are, you face reprimands, criticisms, and judgements.

You can't say "My life why awful up until then, please be kind !". You are not here to talk about yourself and create long lasting bond with people around you.

Women are, sadly, hard to work with, as they hold high standards on how one should behave at work and are highly skeptical of men-specific issues, downplaying, ignoring or even blaming you for your personal experiences.

I wish, when a child, boy or girl, were failing at school, someone would notice and act. That specialized services would be available, not only for victims of abuse but also for children who need more attention. I would also like teachers to be trained on how to act with boys, as how to handle them as it is not a natural skill to develop and requires special attention.

I feel like family and school failed me and went on placing the blame on me. I do not feel like what I went through was legitimate. Nobody is responsible for themselves as a child. Boys are children, and people need to understand that.

I really dislike feminism and how it enables people to ignore boy-specific issues. Whenever I talked about how to change society so others won't experience the same hardship as me, it always comes down to how women's issues are more important, how men are responsible for how people see them, and how men-specific issues are not legitimate.

We should not place responsibility on children. If men were children victims of systemic abuse, they are not responsible for some of the mistakes they make as adults, either. Feminists hold responsibility for how younger men today feel left out and how hostile they become to their ideology excluding them. They should see men like they see women.

Maybe I extend my own experience, but do you think the blockage on boys' issues comes from feminists actively shooting down any initiatives to improve school for boys?