I can get my Tinder matches to agree to a date right away but if I dont "connect" with them beyond small talk before the date they almost always flake

kabylewolf · 2016-01-15T18:14:53+00:00

It's normal. chicks want to be entertained. You don't exist until they meet you. You're just one out of dozens of numbers they're talking to.

If you don't make an impression when it comes to online dating you're gonna struggle.

The text for logistics and minimal digital communication is fine if you've already met them. But before that point, you're gonna need to keep them interested.

MattyAnon · 2016-01-15T18:25:04+00:00

Agree to a date early (good plan - avoid the time wasters)
Make sure there is a definite date
Maintain contact after that with random fluff talk and comfort talk and so on
Don't take female commitment seriously - they line up dates and then change their mind. Plan for this and stack up your dates on the same night (staggered, only cancel when one actually shows up) and have something else planned if they call cancel.

balancespec2 · 2016-01-15T20:33:49+00:00

You need more push pull, lately I've been screwing up on my online/text game, but push pull and polarizing are the best ways to create that interest.

You need to create enough emotional stimulus (give em the tingles) so the hamster keeps spinning all the way until the meet up.

I believe that the usual "text for logistics only" rule only applies when:

You've already met them in person, meaning you already had a chance of set the hamster on fire.
You're shredded, handsome and they can see it.

When it comes to online dating you cannot expect them to come suck your dick with merely two messages, unless your pictures are making them wet already.

Title	I can get my Tinder matches to agree to a date right away but if I dont "connect" with them beyond small talk before the date they almost always flake
Author	balancespec2
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	January 15, 2016 6:10 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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