Shit tests being easy and funny dealing with, struggling with comfort tests

Subutai_Baghatur · 2020-11-06T08:52:52+00:00

The easiest way is to just hold her, let her talk and say some phrases of acknowledgement and understanding. When she’s done, give her a kiss and then be upbeat and suggest doing something else to change the mood.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-11-06T14:46:20+00:00

an embrace and a kiss on face/forehead works when my LTR floats a comfort test - if justified.

the self pity ones, i do not comfort. i do not want to encourage that behavior, and when she tries them, I overtly tell her to 'get over it' and eject. And what do you know, they've decreased to nearly nill.

in the end, they do WANT comfort at times. (to be reassured you're not gonna bail and drop them). So if you eject for specific reasons (for me the self-pity ones) or a repeated lamentation, she'll learn. afterall, she's the one that wants feels and safety at that time. She wants the embrace and to feel your warmth and strength. comfort tests are yet another opportunity to train her.

1pbetter · 2020-11-06T20:44:44+00:00

I would struggle even telling them apart at first. (Is she trying to please you or herself?)

Don’t go overboard with the warmth. Just be present, listen, tell her she’s fine and hold her or move her somewhere else.

My girl always tells me “you make me feel small - I love it” when I recognize her little comfort tests.

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Title	Shit tests being easy and funny dealing with, struggling with comfort tests
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Date	November 6, 2020 8:28 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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