Fixing performance anxiety

themostgianthorse · 2021-03-19T18:54:37+00:00

You’re in your head. Chill.

You were drinking alcohol. Whiskey dick happens to most men when we drink too much.

Also, she is going to hangout with you again so she is still receptive. This means it wasn’t that big of a deal to her. Don’t make it one yourself.

I do not think you should take pills but if you go that route, keep in mind that medication is effected by alcohol. It thins your blood. Thinner blood = baby boner.

Get back in there champ. Nothing wrong with you.

Smerdakas · 2021-03-19T19:16:49+00:00

Don't drink next time, or drink less. And don't think about pills, you're fine.

Before you meet her next time, go smash a workout. Pump some iron to relax and work up your T, and then go pump her.

New_Guard · 2021-03-19T20:01:36+00:00

In addition to what others said, don't wank it between now and when you next see her.

GameDevUX · 2021-03-19T22:42:25+00:00

This is a persistent problem I've had since 2016 when it happened for the first time.

Before that I got hard for girls straight away.

I then took home a girl I wasn't really interested in, she smelt bad and with a condom shit just wasn't happening.

Since then it seems to be a 50/50 if it happens, it's a big blow to your ego (and hers) if you can't perform.

There's nothing wrong with my hormones doctor says its just mental. (Same for you I predict).

Solutions:

Take Cialis. You can order it online, it's mild compared to Viagra, people use it as pre-workout as well. I found taking half a dose got me back to normal levels. You can take it before a date and even if nothing happens, there are no side effects, and you won't have a permanent erection.
When you know it ain't happening, redirect. I bed a girl on our 2nd meet, were making out in her bed I'm feeling her up but I just knew nothing was happening. I was too in my head. Rather than trying and failing (losing a potential plate) I kind of unexpectedly stopped, smirked and said "I think we should wait", as if I was playing hard to get. Yea she was fucking confused but also intrigued. After that I felt comfortable enough with her, out of my head, and we had a lot of really amazing sex.
Generate true desire. For guys it's so easy to get turned on we take it for granted. However when you're in your head so much that part of the brain shuts down. You need to awaken it. There's been times I've been making out with a girl and I'm thinking "okay now touch her leg, slide your hand down to her butt, move your hand up her leg, touch her pussy, bite her lip etc". And even when I touched her pussy I felt nothing, because I was just thinking of the next step and getting her undressed, like an algorithm (very unsexy). Instead I've learnt that taking my time, kissing her, feeling her lips, touching her hair, caressing her body. To just fully appreciate her body, and lose yourself in that, can get you back on track. Just keep doing it until your thought is no longer "omg can I get it up?" to "i can't control myself I need to fuck this chick right now".

Finally just some other things that have helped:

no/less porn
visualise fucking her before you meet
rub your own dick while making out with her (if it's going to sex)
date multiple girls at once
get an erection 10-15 mins before the pull (in a bathroom or something). You might be able to maintain it the whole make out sesh.

Anyway, it's not very "red pill" or "alpha" to deals these with problems, but ignoring them won't make them go away. This is kind of a pivotal moment for you, because this could cause very bad negative momentum. Its best to deal and get over it asap and I think these tips will spare some trauma.

As for the girl youre seeing soon. She already likes you man, it's a shock the first time, but it's going to be okay, she'll be patient if she has to be.

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Title	Fixing performance anxiety
Author	anm73
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Date	March 19, 2021 6:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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