Can you describe to me the life of a "High SMV" Guy in his 20s when it comes to women and social life?

OneTouchHowMuch · 2016-01-25T06:28:35+00:00

When it comes to women & social life, this is where most 20yo guys fuck-up - they get married too young without knowing what to look for, what they want, and how to spot it in a mate. We all know how that goes. Alternatively, they get good jobs and spend all their disposable income on trying to hook-up, live the high-life they've earned, and build a social life with that as the goal - fancy cars, clothes, nice flat, fancy dinners, concert tickets w great seats, music festivals, Vegas, travel, etc.. There is little, if any, future planning such as what happens if you get laid off, you get injured so you can't work in the field you like, if you get sued, etc.. That's very fun, but it will run it's course and then they'll be 40 at the same exact place as when they were 22 - - how depressing

You should be spending the majority of your time in your 20s working on ways to secure yourself financially and socially. If you don't have a source of stable income, some savings/investments, and the knowledge that you can earn money if you lost it all, all the game in the world won't matter for your long-term stability and happiness.

Same thing goes for social relations - Practice your professional social skills. Use those skills to meet other men who can give you advice and share some of their mistakes with you so that you don't repeat them. Acquire mentors in all aspects of life that interest you. Want to start a business? Call or email a guy in another town who has a business like that and ask him questions. Some won't want to help but you don't want to take their advice anyway - the ones who have a good business won't mind sharing some "secrets" to their success.

Read a good book? Email the author and see if you can start a conversation or meet him/her in person.

You never know who takes a liking to you. If you're lucky and you show your enthusiasm, you'll remind them of themselves when they were younger. Older guys LOVE mentoring younger dudes. All-in-all, these are great connections to make long-term because, ultimately, this is how you get "lucky" in life - a great job opportunity that just happened to fall into your lap may come from one of these guys. A good employee to work at your new startup? Your mentors will know someone who is honest and hardworking. Some legal advice on a business problem? Your mentor had the same problem and just saved you $400 from confirming with a lawyer or better yet, they asked their personal lawyer friend to help you pro bono. All in all, it adds up tremendously and will set the stage for you to start living the life you deserve in your 30s, 40s, and on. And then when you see a young eager 22 year old man come and ask you for some advice, you start passing the torch.

Not many people understand how important it it to make these relationships and complete a proper foundation. Without this proper foundation, life will be very hard and feel extremely unfair.

IIlllIllIIIllIl · 2016-01-25T01:14:23+00:00

I think it can swing pretty far either way when you say twenties. Because of the natural curve of men's SMV, that being peaking in the early thirties, the twenties are a slow uphill climb.

AFPJ · 2016-01-25T00:39:22+00:00

Situational. Don't be fat, dress / hygiene / style well and be in a places where you run shit & people can see that.

explorer92 · 2016-01-25T14:08:59+00:00

life is awesome

I get hit on almost every party I go too.
I get a girlfriend basically anytime I want. When I break up with a girl to focus on work/projects ill find a relationship basically right after
Blowjobs and sex with pretty girls is as surreal as it gets. Its so satisfying including the neurochemistry behind sex. Its like a fucking dream.
Sometimes chicks will hook me up at restaurants and stores. Like cut my bill in half. Give me free donuts. If I'm short on money they hook it up. It's so bad I sometimes take advantage of it.

But there are cons. You get a LOT of haters. You start to see how much insecurity exists in people. Guys will find you a threat. Women will be very manipulative towards you. So you kind of compensate all its perks with haters.

macksdowntownsong · 2016-01-25T03:05:29+00:00

LOL @ the top comment on that thread.

I hate to bring the bad news to you but the thing is, while the wealth and all that is great, you need the social circles. There is a reason that fraternity brothers in college get so much pussy, because they have the high status social circles. In college, creating these social circles is easy but after college, it becomes a lot more difficult.

The only guys enjoying the bachelor life after college are famous actors, famous musicians, and pro athletes. Most other guys are working long hours and getting rejected hard by hot girls that find the successful 30 year old more attractive than the kid fresh out of college.

Bring a lot of alcohol and get ready to drink a lot more, life after college sucks when it comes to meeting women and making friends.

Title	Can you describe to me the life of a "High SMV" Guy in his 20s when it comes to women and social life?
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