I am very timid - HELP!

RomanH101 · 2021-04-10T15:13:15+00:00

Take baby steps.

Start by just walking up to women and asking for directions, even when you don’t need them. Do this with as many different women in public until you no longer stutter, act awkward or get flustered by being next to one.

Then, practice striking up conversations with women in public. Whether that’s in the library, at an event or on a campus idk. Shit go to campuses that you dont even study at if you can & just talk to random chicks there. Dont try to close them at first, just talk for a little bit. “Hey do I know you from somewhere... oh my bad, anyways whats your name. Oh okay, im X etc. etc.”

You’ll do this so you can practice striking up random conversations with different women in person. Your voice will be shaky at first, or maybe it wont. You’ll be extremely nervous at first or maybe you wont. Either way, through this process you’re gradually breaking down the mental barrier of being around women and just talking to them.

Finally after about a month of just using this process, start cold approaching chicks. You’ll get a lot of rejections but also a lot of reception.

It will be a numbers game, and thanks to the confidence you’d have built up by being around women and starting random conversations with them, you will have an advantage and they won’t sense weakness off you.

themostgianthorse · 2021-04-10T16:04:54+00:00

Joining toastmasters will change your life.

It’s a big leap and will pay off big.

Did you read No More Mr Nice Guy AND do the exercises?

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KurkTheMagnificent · 2021-04-10T15:34:07+00:00

repetition

throwitdownman · 2021-04-10T18:16:20+00:00

Straight up disagree with other comments. Telling a self-described sperg to solo approach is the equivalent of throwing a non-swimmer into the deep end of the pool and saying ‘swim, bitch!’ There are easier, less traumatic ways to get results.

The easiest way to learn a new skill is to have someone show you the way. Go out with someone sociable and approach WITH him. It’ll give you confidence by not being alone he’ll look out for you as you’re his wingman, and it’ll be a ton of fun. You’ll be soaking up knowledge like a sponge, and your anxiety will disappear. It’s also much easier to do something fun a lot of times than something traumatic, and you need repetition.

Title	I am very timid - HELP!
Author	JB-InBb
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	April 10, 2021 2:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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