Am I wasting my time?

Rasalom72 · 2016-02-19T16:13:54+00:00

Stop giving her you're commitment. You are SPENDING YOUR VALUABLE TIME with her, and not getting sex out of it.

Don't fucking turn around and fall asleep... Get out of her presence. If you're at her place... leave. If she's at you're, tell her to go home.

You need to establish that her spending time with you is conditional on you getting sex. If you don't get sex from her, why should she get to spend time with you?

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-02-19T16:55:04+00:00

I wish broscience would also be a thing about this, like "Don't be afraid to man up and walk out of a date or kick a girl out if your place if she isn't returning your favors". Your time as a dude, is supposed to be valuable. It doesn't matter who or where you spend your time, but if it is wasted, you need to stop it and find better things to do with your time. Limiting your available time to a potential date is paramount in establishing that your value is high. Conversely, wasting your time around a girl tells her that you are willing to wait in her hand and foot like a beta.

balalasaurus · 2016-02-19T17:31:44+00:00

Lol you have a dead bedroom and you're not even serious with her. Look up the 12 levels of dread if you want to stay with her. Personally I would end it as you aren't ready to stand up fir yourself yet.

Slipstix · 2016-02-19T19:39:56+00:00

What are your goals with this girl? Is an LTR a possibility or do you just want to bang her? Totally different criteria for each.

You enjoy time with her, she's affectionate, you guys partake in pretty sexual stuff, and it's only been a month. She sounds like a nice girl, to be honest.

If you want to fuck something there are tons of other options.

[deleted] · 2016-02-19T20:03:46+00:00

She has nothing left to win from you. You've already handed her you commitment, your time, and the ability for her to proudly show you to her friends as the guy who has been her little bitch without getting laid.

Yes, you are wasting your time.

Girls have sex with guys they are attracted to. She is not attracted to you.

throw_em_all · 2016-02-19T20:22:56+00:00

You're being a pussy, you're putting her in a place where she's comfortable, where there's no pressure.

Push for it and make her choose between open the shop for business or getting the fuck out of the way.

RealRational · 2016-02-19T21:34:59+00:00

If you're fine with having her as a friend then do it. Stop pushing for sex and take no action that conveys you are anything but platonic.

You keep trying to have sex with her (action) which tells me you want sex with her. But you used words to say you don't want sex with her. Is someone being too feminine? I think so.

Since you want sex with her, if she says no do NOT turn around and go to sleep. Leave. If she's at your place, "whelp, it's getting late, you better go"

Granted this will come as more of a shock to her now that you've established this pattern. You will likely have some extreme LMR thrown your way. May be enough to end the relationship, but the longer you let this go on the worse it gets. Live and learn.

[deleted] · 2016-02-19T21:55:48+00:00

Hmmm it's like you've hit some kind of sexual purgatory between 3rd base and home. She could be one of those girls who have "rules" about sex like they won't do it until they're "in love" or however many months. Has she given you a reason? I would start implementing a little bit of dread, but not go crazy with it since she's still swallowing your load every night and spends money on you, and see if that'll push her over the edge (unless you're trying to fuck other women too, then go at it and keep her around as a plate). You can just ask her about it, but RP strongly advises against that because you'll usually look like a whiney bitch unless you phrase the question right.

FreyWill · 2016-02-19T22:30:01+00:00

I would flirt with her friends.

bittr_n_swt · 2016-02-20T09:19:00+00:00

the last 5 or 6 times and you're still with her? lmao wake the fuck up she's never gonna fuck you.

You think she's gonna do that to Chad?

huge_gap · 2016-02-19T16:52:51+00:00

A month what the fuck. Either she is really pretty or you're very blue or both.

You already let her run wild and emasculate you for a month, and it's probably too late for her to respect you, but you have to put your foot down.

Sit her down and have a come to Jesus.

"I like you. But I need sex in a relationship. I'm a grown adult and have grown-adult relationships. If this is a problem for you, then we're not going to work out."

Honestly tho, she must view you as Beta Bucks or she is a virgin/inexperienced. In my experience, girls who get tingles from you want to be fucked, and make it very clear.

Put your foot down and make it clear you're not interested in having a middle school relationship.

RPshade · 2016-02-19T17:02:59+00:00

This may be a huge risk, but depending if you are willing to next her if she wont fuck you, I would go for it.

Ignore her for a bit and when she asks you what you are doing, tell her you are out and you are getting laid tonight.

This can work very well depending on you or very bad.

[deleted] · 2016-02-19T18:42:45+00:00

Hang out with a new girl and make this girl see it somehow. You'll be fucking this prude in the ass with your nutsack bouncing on her clit before she can say "im waiting for the right moment"

Title	Am I wasting my time?
Author	carpetstain
Upvotes	12
Comments	22
Date	February 19, 2016 4:09 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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