Shared the PolyFailure post making it's rounds with some friends and we got on the topic of cheating.

Which is generally more destructive to (ending) a relationship, the man or the woman cheating?

the slight majority said the woman cheating, because the man will feel emasculated and won't be able to trust her again

but the minority said man, because he doesnt have the options she does so she can move on easier and there is the blow to her ego of not being #1, plus some of the rationalizations we see of why women are "driven" to cheat won't work here.

opinions?