First date escalation

epimpstyle · 2026-08-10T17:22:41+00:00

On the first date, there aren't many things you can do unless you see that the girl is into you, but... the second and third dates are when the magic happens.

There are so many ways to initiate touch, from checking out her rings to, 'Hey, come closer, I want to whisper something to you,' and wrapping your arm around her neck.

Another move is comparing heights: while standing next to each other, you also measure arm length (not just height)... so you both extend your arms, and then you grab her hand to end up in a dance position and you tell her to spin around...then maybe, you estimate her weight by lifting her up.

Then there's the bench trick when you're sitting together: 'You know what? Sit on my lap and tell Santa what you want for Christmas... but wait, have you been naughty or nice? Because if you were not good you will get... -> show her the middle finger...

If she touch or punch your shoulder (as she laugh or talk_... you pretend it hurts: 'Ouch, that hurts! You are so strong, are you into MMA or are you a professional weightlifter? Let me check your biceps..." (or shoulder, abs, legs .... etc etc) ....

I make jokes, like holding my phone in my left hand and another object with my right hand, then I go closer to her and tell her to check in my pants pocket to see where my handkerchief is (and you know what? I don't even have a handkerchief). She won't do that, or she'll only use the tips of her fingers, but now I have a nice reason to make other jokes.....like she is afraid of the handkerchief, or she is afraid that my dick will bite her, or that I have a mousetrap, or I have a hole in my pocket... sky is the limit.

See? You need to have a playful attitude and it is very easy to initiate touching... you start innocently and progress until you lift her up and then bite her and quickly kiss that place so it doesn't hurt...

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-08-10T16:35:09+00:00

I get how you feel.

A lot with dating is testing out the vibe. If you are still getting 2nd dates, you are ahead oft he game. Means you look good enough and have great personality that these girls want a 2nd date.

But dont test your luck, like you said, they may lose the spark. In my experience, there's an initial spark but that spark can easily die out if you wait too long.

So my advice to you is, put yourself in situations that invite touch. You go to a restaurant? Ask for a square table and sit perpendicular to her (not across). i think the idfea of across peoplke think "oh ill be looking straight at her". But it's harder to get a kiss, get some touches because you ahve the table and a bunch of food as dviders. Perpendicular means that you can give her the space if that's what she wants, but as the covnersation gets well, yo ucan lean forward, have the space to be able to touch, kiss, etc.

Then initiate touch int he most casual of ways. hand touching, hand holding, etc. For me i like to talk about lotion. Maybe ill be like "oh im tryin ga new lotion im not too sure about so sorry if i keep rubbing my hands". Then ill ask what lotion she uses, especially for dates, women tend to be good about wearing lotion and a lot of them have a particular one they use. So if she says "i use this one i really like" ill be like "oh you mind if get a feel for it?" and i extend my hand. If she takes it good, if she is like "no thanks" than im cool about it. Dont be afraid of the pushback, be respectful if it happens. Even if she says "i dont wear lotion" ill be like "omg really? You must have some really ncie and soft hands. Do you mind if i get a feel for it?".

Then ill complement how nice her hand feels and leave my hand there. All this is assuming she is ok with it. And ill just hold her hand and then start a new conversation. If at any point she lets go, i let go. But if she is into the conversation at one point after a few minutes ill go "btw i know ive been holding your hand this long but your hands feel really nice. feel free to let go at any moment". But i know at this point she's also been enjoying it so most of the time she will leave it there.

Now not every date is going to be this easy, it's easier said than done. If you have agood conversations enough to get a 2nd date. If at the end of the date you arent sure about whether she wants a kiss or not, just ask. Literally. But there's a way to ask, dont be like "can i kiss you?" because that shows you are kind of scared and want to do it. But instead ill be like "i had a good time. should we get this first kiss out the way?" For me it shows her that i want to do this, i know it's a nervous situation and it's probably in the back of both of our heads, but it shows her that i am someone who will see the elephant in the room and address it. If she says no, then no harm no foul. It's important to present the idea, but also presnet it and show her that she can say no and you are ok with that. Ive gotten kisses from girls that i knew was not going to go to a 2nd date, but we were both like "ehh it wont hurt to see if the physical is there". Ive kissed girls who said that they loved the fact that i tackled the situation and they were thinking it but nervous about it. Ive had second dates iwth girls who wanted to wait a few dates before a kiss and i respected that.

But it does not hurt to ask, and i promise you, if yo ucan get a kiss out the way in the first date you are less likely to get ghosted or lose the spark because she will no longer see you as just a friend. But if you havent kissed you are more likely to fall in the just a friend category.

Title	First date escalation
Author	thedtherapy
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	August 10, 2026 4:02 PM UTC (2 days ago)
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