Pulling with 0 practice

Content-Region8821 · 2024-10-06T21:28:42+00:00

Just do it dont overthink it

Dwerg1 · 2024-10-06T22:16:49+00:00

Do not plan, go in, put yourself on the spot and improvise.

If you get her talking then listen attentively, do not get lost in your mind thinking what to do next, if it seems she's really interesting in whatever she's talking about then dig into it further.

Find any excuse in the interaction to move in closer and look for natural point to touch her, lightly at first of course.

Stay in control of yourself at all times, if she at any point doesn't look interested in continuing the interaction or looks lukewarm at best, just wish her a good day/night and move on. This is extremely important, you cannot turn mediocre interest into more through game, cut your losses and save yourself the time while appearing like a socially competent individual.

If she's appearing more and more hooked then keep amplifying whatever it is that does it. Also use it to amplify your own state of mind, like, you're going in the right direction and that should feel good. Use the good vibes for all it's worth.

Do not be afraid to leave her for a moment, if nature calls and you have to go pee or something then say so and go do it. Silently expect her to be there when you come back. If not then you lost nothing and saved time, if she's eagerly waiting for you then great. Some guys have a hard time breaking off for a moment in fear that she'll disappear. If you can go take that piss on a very high note then there's no way she'll be going anywhere until you return.

If she starts getting touchy with you then keep building that tension for a little while longer, teasingly if you can, before going for a kiss. Make her feel like she's dying to get that kiss, this may lead to her taking the initiative if you tease her hard enough. Touch her some, break off for a little bit, reengage, go back and forth on the physical. Sort of signalling that you want to touch her, but you also respect her space.

You not only want to get her, you want to get into her head and push ALL the buttons.

It's been 11 years since my first approaches, but I started by basically forcing myself to improvise and I was in fact very shy at the time. First couple of times exceeded my expectations (which was somewhere down at rock bottom), turned into a short polite chat before I broke off, they were nice but I could see it was better to leave them be.

It did not take that long however before I stumbled upon most of what I wrote above. Should also be said that it happened on a particularly good night where I generally felt unburdened by anything and was very much in the moment. That's when crazy stuff just sort of happened, almost effortlessly. Only when I analyzed the events later did I understand what the hell I did right.

I paced myself, I wasn't in any hurry, I didn't give a fuck about outcome and I was just having fun regardless of what the end result may be. That's how you have a great night out and have a decent chance of ending up having sex at the end of it.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-10-06T22:01:53+00:00

Good luck! If your goal is to approach women then go ahead and do it. It’s just like talking to strangers who happen to be in your vicinity regardless they’re men or women. Just make a small talk no biggie.

In fact I was just over at a chipotle and approached an hb8, only took 5 mins. Got her phone # but I soon deleted it when I found out she’s within my sister’s circle. Not worth it lol. If you do it long enough and often enough, you have the power to sort them out.

Hank-Mooody · 2024-10-06T21:49:15+00:00

You don't know how to drive a car but want to go at top speed?
Bruh you gonna crash.

CriminalLee_Insane · 2024-10-06T22:06:50+00:00

Focus on having a good time and go by the vibe when socializing .. if anyone takes a liking to you or finds you attractive they’ll make the first move!

ColdApproachCoach · 2024-10-06T23:56:05+00:00

I’m 5.8, and i can tell you that height is just an excuse used by people who falsely belief if they did and said to women the exact same things they say now but with a higher height, they would get laid with so many girls and more often than not that’s false because they do a lot of things wrong which are the main reason they fail to get laid.

But because they would rather tell themselves that they are already doing everything right cuz their ego is at stake, then they shift the blame on external factors that have nothing to do with their competency, skills, or anything in their control.

Because that way they can’t be blamed themselves and can instead splay the victim which is more comforting for their ego as it avoids taking responsibility.

Your results won’t depend therefore on your height, they will spend on your knowledge or ignorance about female psychology, self-esteem, and social and pick-up skills. If you don’t understand women if you don’t understand how attraction works, if you don’t know how to be smooth or how to create sexual tension or how to connect emotionally with women, that will lead to poor results.

So you better learn about thaycif you don’t know or else approaching women simply won’t get you any results.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-10-07T02:01:05+00:00

but you have been in a relation and all of that, then you are already ahead lol

Dandys3107 · 2024-10-07T08:26:57+00:00

Don’t think about it as some kind of competition or test to prove your skills or value. It takes time to grind your technique, get aware about girl’s reactions and mood, perfecting your inner game and creating your own style. Take it easy and enjoy your path of improvement and interacting with women, don’t force or care too much about outcome, at least in the beginning.

sumimigaquatchi · 2024-10-07T17:24:02+00:00

I don't agree because if you start now and gonna approach without any sticking points it will be a recipe for disaster. Like sending a soldier to war without proper training.

Title	Pulling with 0 practice
Author	thedtherapy
Upvotes	16
Comments	14
Date	October 6, 2024 9:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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