Question about a situation

Bakerofpie · 2014-04-08T04:06:54+00:00

Only hearing one side of the story I couldn't say too much. If he doesn't want to discuss marriage at all, I think that is a problem. If I were going to move states to be with someone I would want to know their views on marriage. If he has told her outright that he doesn't want to ever get married she needs to accept it or move on and not harp on him about it. But I also don't think it's right to leave the subject up in the air and not be clear about whether or not you are willing to get married at any point.

This is why I don't condone playing games in the beginning of relationships and trying to seem like you aren't that worried about marriage or commitment to keep from scaring a guy off. She should have been honest from the get-go that she was looking for marriage in the future so that he would know what he was getting into and determine if they should move forward with the relationship or not.

2014-04-08T21:09:50+00:00

Hard to get an accurate understanding of the situation because the only information you're giving us is based on something you overheard.

"Never wants to discuss marriage" could mean a few things:

He legitimately hasn't discussed his views on marriage with her despite her being so invested in the relationship.
He just doesn't want to get married and won't budge, thus won't "discuss" getting married.

Both could be a problem if her main goal in the relationship is to get married, which is silly in and of itself. Many relationships can work out just fine without a marriage never occurring. If that's seriously her main goal (and not getting married is a deal breaker) and he either refuses or won't tell her how he feels about marriage, then she should reevaluate her relationship with him.

That being said, you said you don't know the people involved, so what does their life matter to you? You should focus on your relationship, not someone else's.

PsychoticMouse · 2014-04-08T04:33:22+00:00

Well, she seems rather devoted if she is willing to cross the country to be with him. They have been together for a while, but if no talks of marriage have come up in 4 years that is a bit concerning. However, do you know these ladies personally? Perhaps the man has some financial difficulty and is just not quite ready to be able to afford a wedding, house, and children. Their relationship could still be quite serious even if the financial funds are currently lacking .

Title	Question about a situation
Author	carrotcake4
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	April 8, 2014 3:47 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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