How to be Effortlessly Elegant as a Woman?

Camille11325 · 2016-02-12T00:44:13+00:00

I am removing this post because there are so many resources for women online about this very subject. It is not an RPW question.

Take a look at the website into-mind.com she does a great job guiding you through the process of creating a wardrobe from scratch, as well as a signature look or uniform if you are interested in that. That being said, there are thousands of blogs that you can also turn to for images that inspire and instruct, just do a google search. Reading magazines and books on personal style will help you a bunch and for makeup, there are books and youtube channels. You can also book an appointment at Nordstroms or Neiman's and have a consultation with a beauty adviser who can walk you through makeup and skincare. I would also suggest going to a medspa and getting a consultation on your skin if that is really an issue.

[deleted] · 2016-02-11T22:15:29+00:00

Maybe I can help some. Maybe. I'm naturally...not particularly fashionable.

A huge help for me has been simplifying my wardrobe. Not thinning it out, just simplifying the individual pieces. Even in the image you provided, that's a very simple but pretty dress.

My SO's favourite outfit of my new wardrobe is legitimately navy colored skinny jeans, a cream sweater, and brown boots. I wear it with maybe a simple necklace and hair up or down. It. Is. Simple.

Other clothes I wear are black skinny jeans, gray long sleeve, and then a cardigan (usually will include a pattern for a little pop somewhere).

Dresses can be your best friend because they are whole outfits put together. My dresses are plain black, plain cream, black and white, black with navy sides, and black and gray. Very plain looking. I try to do the most jazzing of my outfit with my makeup actually. Usually I use matte browns and grays, again, very simple. But if I'm wearing a ridiculously plain outfit I'll go for a pop of gold on the lid, or a copper crease cut.

Almost all my outfits can be worn with black or brown heeled boots.

My SO's rule is if you do it simply, you have to do it well.

Ie when he makes burgers, he uses high quality bread, high quality meat, high quality cheese, and maybe one exciting ingredient like bacon. But you can't make a plain burger with crappy ingredients and expect it to turn out well.

Similarly, he almost exclusively wears jeans and either a white collared shirt, or a plain black t shirt. He gets his jeans custom tailored so they are extremely flattering, and he only wears very nice black t-shirts or collared shirts.

Start with a few staple pieces you feel comfortable with and expand from there. I usually have a theme for each shopping trip (I hate shopping so it keeps me more calm lol). For example "looks good with black skinny jeans" or "would fit with a sleeveless dress". I keep strict to my themes so I don't get overwhelmed and buy everything then hate half of it lol.

I hope that helps because the struggle is definitely real!!

LauraXVII · 2016-02-11T23:08:15+00:00

So this isn't specific to your desired look, but I changed my entire look a couple of years back from frizzy greasy hair, hoodies and baggy jeans to the "classic" style (think breton stripe top and trench coat) so I thought I'd pitch in with some things I've learnt

This is going to take a lot of time. You're not just going to be able to put on the dress in the picture and look the same as her - it'll take hours of wardrobe planning, a lot of analysing your best and worst features, analysing what colours do and don't suit you, what shape clothes make you look fat or your bum look huge (which is my issue), and then the most difficult part is pulling all of these things together into an item of clothing that a store might stock
Pinterest is your friend. I have a range of boards on mine:

General outfits that I like the look of
Outfits I like that I own all the pieces of, and I've separated these into different coloured jeans just to make it easier to find an outfit in the morning
A night out outfits board, again for quick reference
A wishlist board of items that I want

So I find all of these outfits/items by searching on a number of different things:

Tumblr
Instagram
Pinterest
Blogs
Google images

And what I'll do is search a range of different things as well:

style outfits, for me it's usually preppy outfits
style blogs
item of clothing outfits, so for example "olive jeans outfits"
If it's on Instagram I'd usually search #preppy or #olivejeans

Obviously as you go through you can start to follow people whose outfits keep coming up in your searches and on sites like Tumblr it'll recommend you similar people to follow so you're always expanding your clothes network.

Once you've got your inspiration you'll need to go through your closet and separate everything into 3 piles:

Fits with my future look
Half fits with my future look and can be worn temporarily until I've redone my wardrobe
Doesn't match at all

The doesn't match at alls can either be kept as casual/workout clothes or can be charity shopped :)

Then you need to start making a list of the basic items that you'll need - ideally you should be able to make about 14 outfits from these so you have a nice little capsule wardrobe. Bear in mind that we're almost in between seasons so you'll probably have to do this for both summer and winter outfits
Aaand finally... Shop!! Take someone with you who will be brutally honest about whether something suits you or not. Just because you have a jacket with shoulder pads on your essential items list doesn't mean that shoulder pads actually suit you. Well maybe not shoulder pads but you get the idea

Just remember that even once you've planned it all out, this process takes time. I'm four years down the line and I'm still buying things that I consider to be essential two months later. Also, let your style evolve naturally - just because none of the bloggers you follow would be seen dead in a certain item of clothing doesn't mean you can't wear it if it looks good and makes you feel good. I think that's enough rambling for now... Good luck!!

EDIT: apologies for how reddit has formatted my numbering, it was 1-5 but apparently not anymore!!

[deleted] · 2016-02-11T23:33:39+00:00

Oh man I had this whole thing written out and it got deleted. So here is the tl;dr version

look up 12 pieces 10 outfits (and fiddle with the numbers cause i know there are different versions of it also you can add a style word like work or spring).
Get basic solid pieces that go with everything. IE black solid dress. black pencil skirt black jeans and then dress them up with statement pieces colorful cardigan or colorful see through shirt.

LadyOneEarth · 2016-02-11T23:41:56+00:00

I don't think anything can be done without effort if it means changing something such as your style.

Go for nudes, grays, a lot of whites, reds and pinks or pastel.

Avoid anything with holes or very assimetrical (not sure if it's an english word :p )

You will still need to make the effort of going shopping and chose clothing you feel good in. :)

Title	How to be Effortlessly Elegant as a Woman?
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