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[–]rainyweathergirl 5 points5 points5 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
When the cons of a relationship outweigh the pros.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nailed it.
[–]bookworm0101 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I was dating this guy and he broke up with me because of my weight but tells me everything else about me is perfect but I just need to lose weight.
But we continue to hangout we see each other almost everyday, we cuddle, watch movies, talk about the future, go to dinner, we just planned a vacation, make out but he will only be sexual towards me when he is drunk and he is very open about when we aren't together he finds girls and sleeps with them. He tells me that he only sleeps with them, I'm the only girl he is dating. It bothers me that he sleeps with other women because I'm in love with him but I just don't know if this is just going to continue wear me down or if things will get better. He tells me he loves me but can I really believe that?
But the weight issue is because I was recently diagnosed with PCOS and hypothyroidism and I am doing everything I can to fix myself and make myself but it's a process.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It sounds like he wanted to be able to go out and see other ppl but still have you on the side. He just found your weight to be a convenient excuse. Lose the loser.
[–]bookworm0100 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
We do have a 13 year age difference...I don't know if that would have something to do with it.
[–]VigilantRedRoosterModerator3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are a plate. This relationship isn't likely to turn good no matter what. Strongly recommend cut contact with this man and work on improving yourself and being available for a good and interested man to come along.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You could drive yourself nuts trying to figure out why, you know? Save yourself the sleepless nights and just move on.
Move on. He doesn't love you.
[–]RedPillRhonda0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yikes. Girl, have some self-respect. Yes, lose the weight, but don't return to him. Don't be a willing plate.
[–]Mentathiel0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't mess with PCOS and hypothyroidism, your weight is the least of your concerns right now. Try not to get to the point of no return (at least maintain it or don't go obese), but getting proper medication, diagnosis and help right now is crucial and you shouldn't mess those by misattributing symptoms or lack of symptoms caused by a sudden change in your habits to your problems or vice-versa. Until situation is stable on those fronts, work on that.
Other than that, agree with what others have said. You're likely a plate, he's likely using you. Even if he loves you, it doesn't matter, he doesn't love you enough to give you the comfort of monogamy, which you obviously carve since you're asking for advice from Internet strangers. Sometimes love isn't enough, sometimes your visions of love don't match, sometimes someone's vision of love is romanticized to satisfy their needs and not their partner's. And his seems to be. So don't hang around and pray for a change or ruin both of you by pressing him to change, go someone who aligns with you.
What do you mean? Someone you're in an LTR with?
[–]bookworm0100 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The biggest pro I have is that I am completely and totally 100% in love with him but sometimes I think that might be a con :/
[–]HappyLollie1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like your just his plate, tell him he either commits or dump him ASAP save yourself the heartbreak, you don't love him and he doesn't love you, love is reciprocated this sounds like infatuation.
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