So...where do I actually MEET quality girls? Where did you meet your Plates?

SouthwellR · 2014-06-18T01:30:49+00:00

I tend to meet plates wherever. I'm a gym rat and a nerd, so I've met some at conventions, one at a bookstore, and one on a frisbee team (sadly, no fitgirls from the gym proper yet... that approach is one nut I haven't cracked out of respect for Odin's iron temple). I used to meet them in bars back in college, but that was when I was an engineer and had only just learned about Game, so my abilities limited my options.

I tend to meet quality girls through friends. Easier to vet them that way - I work hard to keep a quality inner circle of friends, so anyone who they know well tends to be of halfway decent character. This really only became an option after I went on to law school; before that, my circle of friends consisted entirely of other engineering types and nerds. Engineer girls exist, and some are very high quality, but I was not a sufficiently high-quality man at the time to beat the crowd of appeasing betas.

The trick with using your social circle is you cannot poison the well. Randoms from a bar are one thing; you can practice your Game or just push the boundaries of polite behavior to gauge the reactions and refine your social skills - particularly important if, like me, you started from a place of relative social ineptitude (where is the socially acceptable place for a young male nerd to learn how to tell when a girl wants to be approached, or kissed, or invited back home?). With friends, you can't experiment us much. It's important to remember that your friends are not just resources, but people with their own reputations and feelings; you might not care if you're That Guy, but your friends might be hurt if they're the one who keeps introducing their female friends to That Guy. So be gentle.

Not sure what changes I can expect to the meeting places now that I've finished law school. Whatever happens, I'm confident in my ability to capitalize on it.

slurmssmckenzie · 2014-06-18T04:56:37+00:00

The amount of betas that go to church is crazy. I have been heavily involved with organized religion my whole life and having found TRP a year ago has made it like shooting fish in a barrel.

There are so many more quality girls out there than guys on here realize. If I wasn't in my religion I always thought Mormon girls would be where its at. These girls are all no sex before marriage so it doesn't do y'all any good I guess. All the good ones are gone by 22 also. I'd say 50% marry the first guy they date.

sailorJery · 2014-06-18T00:51:06+00:00

Quality is subjective, what's Quality to you might not be of interest to me.

Are you into Art? Have you tried museums, open studios and galleries?

Are you into Idie Music? Check out local indie venues.

Into running/fitness? There's a running club near you.

Writing? Check your local library for writing groups.

Try meetup (dot) com, search for what interests you.

Once you're there, talk with everyone and everyone, male or female, young or old, ugly and more ugly; you are genuinely interested in what's going on, they all know someone who is like-minded.

widec · 2014-06-18T01:22:49+00:00

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LibertarianLibertine · 2014-06-18T09:05:51+00:00

A plate is the opposite of a quality girl. A quality girl is the type that you'd want to date/marry. A plate is just a fuck buddy.

madhax0r · 2014-06-18T05:21:13+00:00

The fact that you would ask such a question indicates that you have a long way to go in your transformation.

If you're having a hard time finding girls you must be agoraphobic. Girls are /everywhere/. At your job, at the park, at the mall, at the corner store.

When you fully accept that you're going to have to become a social creature, this question will gradually evaporate from your mind.

2014-06-18T06:55:55+00:00

I've met a lot of my FWBs online. Some success on Tinder. My big game weakness is approaching; I'm pretty charming and a good conversationalist, but that initial couple minutes of interaction is really, really difficult for me, even when it's just a male acquaintance I haven't seen in a while. So, online dating and social groups/clubs have been my crutch, even though it has worked pretty well for me.

raceAround126 · 2014-06-18T08:02:37+00:00

I'm into metal. If I'm interested in anything decent, I'll go there. A lot of the girls I would avoid, but you do get to meet a few that have it together.

So go to music venues you're interested in.

I've also been to standard club nights. I like techno and electronica too. I find the girls there easier and more receptive to one night stands. Plus, there's usually far more girls than guys there. It's a great place to practice approaching. Plus, a lot of the bouncers there I know from my bouncing days. It's sometimes paid off when a girl sees you being pally with the enforcers so to speak :)

Other than that, coffee shops, wherever really.

I've yet to have a single success story from the gym. Most gym girls are either whalers, grannies, or women who just want to work out and be left alone.

musicvita25 · 2014-06-18T10:16:03+00:00

Online, bars, clubs, tindr are great ways to find plates.

Quality girls? I'd have to get back to you on that.

2014-06-18T11:32:43+00:00

If you go to the gym regularly at the same time each day, you will see other girls who are regulars. Go out to the local bars on the weekend and you might run into a regular and then all you gotta say is "hey do I know you from somewhere?"

The_Fart_Of_God · 2014-06-18T13:15:09+00:00

met some girl studying political science during a travel. Stayed friend with her to meet her friends. Political science is full of everything except manly men. Easy mode.

Cyralea · 2014-06-18T14:36:28+00:00

Quality girls and plates are wholly different things. Plates are pretty easy, use online tools like Tinder and PlentyOfFish, or try day game. I once went to a smaller speed dating thing where I was by far the best dressed/attractive guy there. Ending up scoring with two of them, so there is that.

For quality girls, that's much harder. Quality girls aren't hitting up clubs looking for new dick. From my experience, you have to go where these kinds of girls go to have fun by aren't the kinds of places a party girl would go. Look up new hobbies, like language classes or crafts. If you're into sports, female-friendly sports like volleyball and badminton tend to draw them out. If you're particularly good at either you have an artificial SMV bump.

If you're religious, definitely go to community gatherings and/or church. I'm an atheist, but churchy type girls make for solid LTRs.

Confluenced · 2014-06-18T02:34:28+00:00

Music Festival, two through some of my girlfriends, one at a beer festival, the other through a birthday party, two from the same bar (one was the bartender).

Quality.....well that is pretty hard to nail down in America. Women here don't know how to cook well, stay clean, and will probably be terrible mothers. Not one plate I know values being a mother above their other goals (if they even have a goals, most don't).

2014-06-18T08:16:24+00:00

Back when i was DJing meeting plates there was easy mode, i used to pull them in WAAAAY above my true SMV, i even had a few solid 9s, i was at best a 7.

After that ended i stopped IRL approaches tbh, i know i shouldnt, i know i need to keep spinning plates but i found i just didnt have the opportunity, my lifestyle doesnt put me in touch with many women in the right context. So i went online, and although it is a shit fest, you CAN still get a win on there, if you're realistic and keep yourself right. I pulled in a reasonable amount of new plates on there, given that i have an LTR eating into like 70% of my free time adding 6 so far this year i feel is pretty decent.

Now, i dont actually pull in new plates. I have a stable of 3 orbiters (23/8, 30/7, 39/6) who i occasionally spin, but i reality i dont have much drive to do so any more. If those 3 were to disappear, i may dip my toe back in the water, but i dunno.

At the minute ive got low T levels, which isnt helping. Right now im basically a bit of a sexless android. Its not that i dont have it available to me, its just that i most of the time have absolutely no desire to have any. My LTR needs some no less frequently than say 4-5 days or she gets really cranky, i usually let her have it since shes done nothing to justify depriving her, but meh, i could take it or leave it.

rpkarma · 2014-06-18T03:06:14+00:00

I had a radio show that I presented and ran. No, really, it was a shitty community station, but just being able to say "oh I present on the radio" was enough to get a girl that I met in any venue intrigued. She would then listen to said show. Then it's fish in a barrel.

It also helped by getting free tickets to all the local gigs, certain music scenes have interesting mixes of slutty carousel riders and rather chaste chicks who are literally there for the music (whom you can then convert to the former).

I miss my show :(

2014-06-18T05:01:43+00:00

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2014-06-18T18:52:09+00:00

Clubs and bars. Not every girl at a club or bar is a slut. Most of the ones i meet are just regular girls who like to go out a few times a month. I used to think that there was no way i could meet a quality girl at those types of places, thatthey were just full of dumb, uninteresting, sluts who had nothing to offer but i've actually met a few attractive, well rounded girls.

Title	So...where do I actually MEET quality girls? Where did you meet your Plates?
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