RP advice for how to treat girls you have no intention of sleeping with?

648262 · 2014-01-03T17:00:35+00:00

Treat them like guys.

frequentlywrong · 2014-01-03T17:02:34+00:00

A man requires frame in every social interaction no matter who or what gender. Confidence, assertiveness and boundaries. This will make people respect you and it can not be half assed. It is either everyone or you're a phony.

If you act that way women will be attracted to you. If you are not attracted to them make that clear. It is not up to you how others respond to you. That is their issue. If you like their company fine. If they overstep your boundaries leave.

Worrying about how they will respond is you putting yourself in their frame. Women will never respect you for doing that no matter what relationship.

feministsRgarbage · 2014-01-03T17:59:42+00:00

Treat them no differently. Redpill life requires that you as a man take the lead in any interaction involving women.

Harder to do with relatives, especially your mom/sister but still important. When you make a decision, make sure it's final, and don't volunteer much.

Anytging you say or do, make sure you get the respect you are due. set boundaries and do not pussy out.

I have some female acquaintances, by choice. Not interested in them in the least on a sexual level.. I neg them whenever warranted, and give them no attention beyond what I would give a dude. I also hold them accountable for their bullshit.

Works out fine.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2014-01-03T18:23:15+00:00

BOUNDARIES!!!

Meaning I don't engage in idle, one-on-one chit chat with a woman who is married to my friend. The extent of my conversations with her are usually "is your husband available?" or "Your husband asked me to bring this to the house, so here it is". Anything else is an invitation to some bullshit.

Even with unmarried women, my interactions are polite but brief. I'm married. And even if I wasn't married, I'm not a big fan of the female form of communication.

With women I am related to, I interact with them in my capacity as the leader of my family. I ask them questions related to their well-being... you know, how's school, how's work, do you need anything, that kinda stuff. I love them and I will listen to them talk because it really, genuinely makes women feel a lot better to just talk about their shitty day. Personally I don't get it, when I've had a shitty day I don't wanna talk about it, I just want to eat dinner and forget about it, but they really benefit from it and I love them so I want them to be happy.

randarrow · 2014-01-03T21:38:44+00:00

Upvoting because I want to see the answers. Depends on woman. I'm having to rp my sister/neice just to keep holidays from being a disaster. I have two lady friends which have earned bp treatment (they set up lots of social events), I'm happily friendzoned. Most women I rp until I decide which ladder they are on. Don't exactly rp mom, but she seems comfortable in my frame, she complains about me being 'edgy' on occasion now.

Since discovering rp I feel better, dealings with people are better, I think people around me are happier. But honestly, rp hasn't changed number of dates I go on.

YMMV

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2014-01-04T02:17:13+00:00

Amused mastery. Amused indifference.

HeadingRed · 2014-01-03T22:12:05+00:00

Keep in mind drama can still spool up. Many women keep men around like wine- "oh he's not ready to drink now, but in a few years maybe". Don't kid yourself too much- more than a couple a keeping you on the back burner as a possible "I'm done screwing around time to settle down" guy.

A couple words of advice\things to watch out for (learn from my failures) -

When they get dumped and decide to bang you to get him off her mind. At this point the "oh wow, I can just keep banging my friend! This will be awesome" will occur to both of you. In about 2 weeks all of the things both of you let slide will no longer be acceptable. Yours most of all. The things you liked that were not a problem for her will now be a problem. Shifting from friend to lover is a mess. Did it twice, ended badly both times. Don't speak to either of them now.
One of these female friends will be sweet, fun, charming, just a joy to be around and all around perfect- except for the fact she just huge. Not Joan from Madmen huge, I mean can only get clothes in the big girls store huge. And you are friends because she is a pleasure to be around. And you see her a lot when you are between girls. And one week you will get dumped, or just be down, and you and her will have a drink. And then a couple more. And you will look at her face laughing and think "you know, I should stop being so shallow. Look at what was right in front of me the whole time". And you will make a move and she will swoon. She has been orbiting you for 3 years- always there, never demanding, consistantly the best woman in your life above all others. And you will wake up, and go oh my god. And there is no easy way out of this. And if you chalk it up to drinks\the moment and don't go back for seconds you can keep her as a friend. But you won't because you think you owe her something. And you will say "I'll go out with her for a while and break it off gently". And that will be the dick move- letting her think for a while that she had a shot. This is a case where being the nice guy is being the mean guy.
This can raise your value to any woman you are going out with. This can raise drama with any woman you are going out with.

Title	RP advice for how to treat girls you have no intention of sleeping with?
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Date	January 3, 2014 4:30 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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