Mister Softee - Rational Male | "The main reason for this is rooted in women’s innate solipsism. If the reality doesn’t fit with her interpretation, rationalize the reality to force fit it to that interpretation."

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Title Mister Softee - Rational Male | "The main reason for this is rooted in women’s innate solipsism. If the reality doesn’t fit with her interpretation, rationalize the reality to force fit it to that interpretation."
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 11
Comments 6
Date 17 January 2013 04:58 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/174832
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/16rcil/mister_softee_rational_male_the_main_reason_for/
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[–]RedHonest 10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy

Love it. Lots of comments:

  • The first "Iron Rule of Tomassi" is about Frame: "Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are." This article is linked here, and even though frame isn't consciously mentioned all that often on Rollo's blog, it's really fucking important.

  • The best window into a woman's Id is to what she thinks about you when she's attracted to you. For instance, women who were into me made assumptions like that I had a lot of sexual partners.

  • Alpha doesn't mean being a douche. I'm not trying to get all seddit-lite here, but I think when betas try to get douchey, the result isn't attraction. Rather, Alpha's are generally considered douches, usually by beta men, when they aren't really. They just don't follow the rules of the feminine imperative that society tells us are required to be decent.

[–]TRP VanguardVZPurp 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Spot on, RedHonest.

[–]TRP Vanguardtheubercuber 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Can you expand on your second post? For instance if they assume you've had a lot of sexual partners, does that mean they are afraid you'll find out the same of them and slut-shame them? This is very interesting.

[–]RedHonest 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

does that mean they are afraid you'll find out the same of them and slut-shame them?

I don't think so.

If she likes you, and is attracted to you, her hamster works in your favor: She makes you out to be more attractive than you are. She assumes preselection, that you've had a lot of partners.

This is why a woman asking about your relationships is a giveaway IOI. She's actually turned on by the idea that you've been with many other partners.

[–]Modredpillschool[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

So much good stuff in here.

A lot of freshly unplugged guys have trouble accepting Game as being anything more than an act – a series of behaviors meant to elicit a response in a woman, and once she’s been attracted they can go back to their regularly scheduled personality. They rely on rote memorization instead of learning and internalizing Game. What a lot more don’t understand is that even in their blue pill Beta Game days they also followed a similar ‘acting’.

This acting is encouraged in much the same way as Ann was attempting to distort her own reality. As with most women, they fall in love with a dichotomy; they want a sweet guy, who’s tough and gets shit done. If one of these aspects is out of balance her rationalization engine (i.e. Hamster) will make subconscious attempts to compensate for it in her words and beliefs. “I want a sweet guy with a good heart” is boilerplate for the feminine imperative because it ‘sounds right’. Men hear this and ‘act’ on it in the deductive belief that it will endear him to women in general.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Upping the Alpha doesn’t mean offing the empathy. Game doesn’t mean learning sociopathy – it means learning control of one’s psychology. Most Betas find themselves miserable because they’ve been raised to believe that self-expression and open communication of emotions are the keys to successful living with women. It’s interesting that for all the understanding about how women are wired for emotion and men are wired for reason that it should be the men of the last generations who are more emotionally expressive than any preceding generation. Guys like Floyd aren’t any less emotional or compassionate or sentimental, they simply know the value in controlling their more ephemeral aspects. They know when to apply it and when to withhold it. They know the reward value a rare display of emotion means to women who want to write their own script for the Man they’re in love with.

This part of the article was especially hard to swallow because I fucking lived it. Born a natural -> Life experiences (mostly women I dated) crammed the BP back down my throat, too beta and insecure to stop them -> Miserable -> Cutting loose my solid 9 and change ex-girlfriend -> Finding this sub, realizing that I had been unplugged since Sophomore year in High School but didn't have a name for it -> Committing.

I'm an extremely emotional person but it is wrapped up tight under my sarcasm and razor sharp wit. I have been wrestling with how to load balance the two without hitting either extreme (overly emotional vs. sociopath) and this article nailed it home. You can be as emotional as you want, but you have to be able to reel it in when her attraction level wanes. This separates the refined Alpha man from his somewhat respected, but not ideal "Douchebag" and "Sociopath" Alpha types. In order for women to rationalize obeying your commands long term she must also be able to rationalize how "warm and gooey" you really are. God DAMN why couldn't I have read this shit a decade ago. So, SO many times I can look back at women I've dated and remembering them saying this line almost verbatim. "He's a little rough around the edges but really a nice guy." They lap that shit up like free martinis.

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