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The friendzone doesn't exist.

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April 12, 2013
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Title The friendzone doesn't exist.
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 25
Comments 11
Date 12 April 2013 03:29 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/174894
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1c7le4/the_friendzone_doesnt_exist/
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[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave 26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

I met this guy through a friend. I really liked him so swapped numbers/facebook chatted. I have a lot of guy mates so didnt think anything of it. Invited him to a party, but he ended up staying the night. I was really drunk so let him share the bed (I already know I've been a total bitch at this time) not really thinking anything of it. Then everyone let me know that I was leading him on and that it was obvious he liked me.

ugh. Meanwhile, in some alternate reality:

I met this guy and I remember thinking he's a little too cocky and bold for my tastes, because he was asking me out within about five minutes. See, I don't go for that at all and plus he wasn't even remotely attractive to me. So I gave him my number and a bit later I invited him to a party.

Now here's the weird part, even though he's not my type at all and I'm not attracted to him, I was strangely jealous that he spent the whole party talking to other girls. I can hold my own though! Took a little effort but I got his attention :-)

Anyway, he said he wanted to sleep with me so I clarified that I wasn't interested, but he was in no condition to drive so he could stay the night. We started kissing, and then ended up fucking. I remember thinking, "this is a mistake, but I'll give him the 'just friends' talk in the morning." But then he got up to leave. I asked him to please stay and he just laughed. Kind of irritated me and I spent the rest of the night thinking about him.

I tried to meet up with him to have that talk, but he had apparently started dating one of the girls from the party - or something, I'm not sure. Just heard it through the grapevine. He eventually texted me and we're going out tonight. All my friends have let me know that he's leading me on and it's obvious he doesn't like me. But I think I really love him.

My question is, does this dress show enough cleavage?

[–]chikinpickle 23 points23 points [recovered] | Copy

Yeah, if a chick has nothing but dude friends, big red flag I usually steer clear.

[–]AbraxianAeon 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on the type of chick.

There is the type who usually doesn't like women as much because men are more straightforward and fun to be around, this type is usually in a relationship and is loyal.

But yeah the ones with orbiters are promiscuous + users.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (2 children) | Copy

How do I continue to get free attention from this guy without giving him the sexual attention he wants?

[–]Modredpillschool[S] 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Step 1. Deny the friendzone exists.

Step 2. Friendzone.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Step 3: profit from child support payments

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can smell the burning woodchips from here.

What I find most telling about this particular hamster is that you can see how she's compartmentalizing.

Her fear of "hurting him" or of "making things awkward" reveals her knowledge of his wants, but she convinces herself that proceeding with the friendship os fine because "we're friends, and true friends should endure no matter how awkward things get."

Lesson of the day: you have no business being friends with a woman unless either you're laying her or she is helping you get laid.

[–]TRP VanguardVZPurp 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

She clearly wants things that a sex interest or boyfriend would provide, and is looking to get them without the sex part. Classic trap.

[–]TRP VanguardVZPurp 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

He should have made some moves instead of waivering around in some stage of "liking" her. It isn't very attractive (hint: it's a turn off, it's feminine).

I've gotten out of the "friendzone" before. I stopped being a pussy and tried to escalate quickly. Surprisingly, it works. and when it doesn't, you don't get bothered, you move on to the next girl and delete the cock-teases number. Don't give these girls attention and validation. That's what they want, not friendship. Free male attention, validation, support, resources - cut them off. You have a lot to offer and, more often than not, she's just using you.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Err, it doesn't read like anything but she wants a puppy dog.

[–]Furbowl -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

The term "friendzone" is a misnomer, because heterosexual women can't be friends with heterosexual men in the same sense as men can be friends with each other.

The closest to friendship that women can do for men is allow them "orbiting beta male status".

This is not an equal relationship, as friendship between men usually is. She allows you to orbit her because you provide her with useful services. You pay admiring attention, you open the door, you give her rides to parties, you listen to her emotional outbursts, you dutifully agree that women are always better than men in everything, Etc. ad nauseam.

And of course, you will not be having sex with her; you are orbiting, not intersecting.



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