What's the proper way to deal with her attempts to make me jealous?

LockedOnTheRedPill · 2017-07-25T05:28:27+00:00

One word: Oneitis.

You're looking at this from a "I want to make this into a relationship as fast a possible" perspective. You obviously don't have an abundance mentality yet or a solid grip on TRP concepts or you wouldn't be trying to jump into this headfirst. My advice, procure an abundance mentality, and see if you want to move as quickly as you are. If you have no idea what I'm fucking talking about, go read the sidebar.

sand141 · 2017-07-25T07:41:15+00:00

we were messaging for weeks

What was the point of this? Do not say it was to get to know her better, that should be done in person, not over text. Texting is for logistics only

there was a situation which made me feel she's trying to friendzone me

you're already there, since you haven't bothered to ask her out yet.

so i've told her that i am not going to be her girl friend with a vagina and the only people i want to talk to with no strings attached are my male mates, then made my intentions clear.

This should be done with actions, not with words. It comes across as insecure with words.

i got her attached to me so easily and i feel like i am the one who is in control now.

You're giving her validation and attention while you're not getting anything. You're not in control of anything.

I want to try to get into a relationship with her as I really started to get emotionally involved (don't worry, i know what you think), so did she, I really like her, and this is definitely a pre-relationship state.

Why do you want to be a relationship with a girl you haven't had sex with. This screams scarcity mindset. It's sex then relationship, not the other way around. She should be asking for a relationship, not you

We share same friends and we will have a bbq in a couple of days, there will be also some guys who have crush on her and I have a feeling that she's going to test me by talking with them etc

So she's going to have all her beta orbiters include you in one place giving her unlimited attention, sounds like a good night to her.

Not giving a fuck seems to be the best idea, but won't that possibly make her feel that I gave up/I am pussy cause I am afraid of confronting with some dude? Or maybe should I make sure that she spends most of time with me that day?

Nope, you should next this chick and talk to other women at the bbq party.

Diagnosis: Oneitis

Treatment: A mixture of reading the sidebar, lifting, nexting this chick, and talking to other women.

vandaalen · 2017-07-25T08:26:31+00:00

Oneitis and being her orbiter she turns to and texts with when she is bored and taking a shit.

Next.

[deleted] · 2017-07-25T05:39:07+00:00

The instant she tries to make you jealous, go cold. Go hit on somebody else.

And like u/LockedOnTheRedPill says, drop the oneitis bullshit.

Torabor64 · 2017-07-25T07:42:23+00:00

You are overthinking this. Just have a good time, either with her, or if she isn't paying attention to you, with someone else.

The moment you start worrying about what she does or what you should be doing,you are already failing.

pfffft_comeon · 2017-07-25T10:59:01+00:00

she tries to make you jealous? poke fun at her because that's such cute behavior. she's either for you or not.

[deleted] · 2017-07-25T16:38:09+00:00

Ghost this stupid bitch

Title	What's the proper way to deal with her attempts to make me jealous?
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Date	July 25, 2017 5:19 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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