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[–]W_O_M_B_A_T2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Jesus Herbert Crust this made me yawn just reading it.
Stop being boring.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (11 children) | Copy Link
After about 1 to 2 minute of massaging her back, she says that she's okay now. I took it as a sign that she wasn't interested in anything physical so I didn't make a move after this.
That was your mistake right there. Just because she didn't let you escalate right away doesn't mean she wasn't going to let you in 10 minutes. The strategy is to escalate, then if she isn't into it wait about 10 minutes and try again, if she isn't into it then wait another 10. If at that point she isn't into it then you need to be respectful and tell her you had a good time but it's getting late. Always assume she's into you until she says she isn't.
From the sounds of things you could have at least fooled around with her, and you still can. Set up another date and take her out for an actual dinner this time (by your Apt./house/etc.), then ask her back to your place for a night cap. There's nothing wrong with buying a girl a meal, regardless of the shit people write on here. When you get back to your place have some alcohol on hand, I usually have something like Jim Beam maple with lime and coke - put a comedian on (that she likes) and make some mixed drinks then escalate again when you feel like the moment is right. She's into you, dude.
Also, stop worrying about your looks. Be confident in who you are.
[–]pbf11 points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
What makes you think she's into me?
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
After one drink she went back to your place. She let you give her a massage. Dude... She's into you.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Precisely. If a woman EVER goes back to your place alone with you, she wants your dick. All you have to do is act like you want her pussy and things will workout.
I told her that I have some food at my place as we walked around outside and she agreed to that. Why did she not let me continue massaging her after only a brief minute though? That made me hesitant and didnt want to make her uncomfortable
[–]failingtheturingtest1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Why did she not let me continue massaging her after only a brief minute though?
Because you were awkward. She gave you so many openings, instead you gave her a 2 minute noodles and a 2 minute massage. And still didn't escalate. I'm sure she was jumping at the chance to figure out what else you can do in 2 minutes.
What openings? She didn't show much interest. I know girls will try to touch your arm or flirt more, but I didn't see any openings and she did none of that
[–]failingtheturingtest0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
As was previously pointed out.
She accepted coming to your place for 'food' on the first date. Sheilas avoid going to your place because you are going to fuck them if they do. If they go to your place, they EXPECT you to try and fuck them.
She didn't leave when 'food' turned out to be 2 minute noodles. So she liked you enough that even when you copped out on actually feeding her she stuck around.
She let you massage her.
You simply failed to escalate properly. 1 to 2 minutes of massage (without making any OVERT sexual attempt) is what every one of her orbiters has tried.
Inviting her to yours was GOOD. The moment you had her isolated on the couch, you should have gone in for a kiss or at least sexualised the touching. Massages say "I don't have the courage to just touch you, so I'm going to ask permission in a weird way"
Damn you made me feel bad about the instant noodles thing and I think I messed up on my text to her
"Nice meeting you. You threw all of the noodles away :D (i shouldve offered better food)"
Did I screw this up? Too beta sounding?
[–]failingtheturingtest0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Did she really throw all the noodles away? Did you really send that to her?
If yes to both, that is pretty bad. You need to cut your losses and move on, I think. You're just getting in your own head and messing yourself up.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women aren't always down to get intimate right away. You need to stop worrying about making her uncomfortable and give her time to warm up to you. If you really make her uncomfortable she'll let you know. Otherwise just take it easy, don't be too eager and enjoy the moment. Like I said, go on a second date, maybe even invite her over for dinner and drinks and skip the restaurant/bar, then take a fucking half hour to let her warm up. She might just need a little time to accept that she wants to open up.
I've warmed girls up for weeks before we had sex. I don't blame them for waiting. It takes some girls 2 hours to be open to that, some girls take a month. Just be patient.
I sort of tried to act like a gentleman and not force myself on her.
There's your problem. When a woman agrees to go back to your place, she wants your dick 100% of the time. That, or she has to take an explosive shit and needs to use your can.
The only reason you got the cold shoulder is because you didn't act more aggressive and escalate. I find girls will give LMR only when I dropped the ball earlier on in the evening and she is concerned I might not be the stud she thought I was.
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