Took advice of TRP, tried to be a slayer, broke off LTR, now am miserable and suicidal.

mountainbiker178 · 2017-05-16T21:18:16+00:00

I married my first lay, had 2 kids with her before she cheated on me after 17 years of marriage. That happened when I was 39. Enough with your pity party. There will always be someone with a worse story. Be thankful you're redpill aware when you're 30. How I wish I had known sooner AWALT.

You need to learn how to be awesome apart from women. Once you do, then you'll find one.

kranos33 · 2017-05-16T21:27:09+00:00

Looks like you are in some kind of emotional rollercoaster (bipolar?), and women can sense it and it turns them off.
TRP is about doing what you want to do. If you wanted to stay with your girl, then you should have. You shouldn't just do something because some 21yo spew on the internet. You should filter out bad advice (and there is plenty here).
You could have dipped the toes on the water, to see if you liked (i.e. talk/game women, but still be in with your relationship). But you decided to jump dead on water, and you cant stand as it is cold.

"I want to cut my face up." ----

Looks like you really need to talk to a therapist/psychiatrist before doing any real dating. You have to stabilize your mood first man, and people here can't fix it. Also just don't take advice you get here wholesale, some is good some is really bad.

TLDR: Visit a therapist and stabilize your mood before trying to game/date girls.

ppzhao · 2017-05-16T21:18:54+00:00

I'm gonna assume this isn't a troll attempt and take this seriously: Were you happy with her, or was she merely "the best you could've gotten"? If it's the 2nd one, then you made the right choice.

From an internal perspective, you gotta get over the regret, what's done is done, regardless of whether it was a good or bad decision. Obviously raising your SMV and letting go of your anger is the solution.

From there, work on acquiring more women.

If you're getting numbers and they're not replying back, it means you're not solidifying your numbers, and you're not getting enough numbers. Depending on setting, 3 out of 4 numbers will flake, that's life. I started my "game" career getting a bunch of numbers at bars, and majority flaked. Let me know if you have no idea how to solidify.
Maybe whatever you were doing isn't what works best for you - try other ways of meeting women. Meetup groups based on your hobbies; spamming online dating sites; increasing your circle of friends; anything else?

Oh yeah, lose the anger and hate from your tone when you're out. We don't mind it, cuz a lot of us have been there, but that's really unattractive in real life, especially in front of women.

jcrpta · 2017-05-16T21:46:37+00:00

Initially, I downvoted this because I thought it was an obvious troll. But then I thought: What if it's not? What if it is a genuine question from a man who's near the end of his rope?

Okay, listen up: What you are feeling sounds like a combination of desperation and depression.

Women can smell this a mile off; it will scare them away. You are going to have to deal with this; it won't go away on its own. I'm going to do a little exercise here; I want you to join in with me. The exercise works like this: I ask a bunch of questions, you answer them honestly and in public.

I'm going to answer the questions first.

You say you work out. Okay, good. Strip down to your underwear, stand in front of a full length mirror, quit lying to yourself and tell me what you see. Do you look okay? Or is that time in the gym not really paying off? If it isn't paying off, what are you doing about it?
- I see a man who's got very good legs. Shame about the top half. Arm muscles are better defined than they were six months ago, but "defined" is the nicest word I can think of. Arnie I ain't. Belly fat needs to go.
- The time in the gym isn't paying off a well as I'd like. I've looked into what I should be doing, and I reckon the exercises to make your muscles look bigger assume you actually have muscles TO look bigger! So I'm concentrating on strength rather than size for a few weeks.
You can "dress in really expensive suits". Are you dressing in expensive suits? Do they look good? Are you trying too hard? Rocking up at a bar in a £2,000 designer suit doesn't make you look well dressed, it makes you look like a wanker.
- I could probably afford to have fewer, better quality clothes.
What hobbies do you have that increase your SMV?
- I've taken up guitar. This is mostly for fun; I dearly love the idea of being able to make music. It is damn hard work and I'm never going to sound like Hendrix, but my goal isn't to be a megastar. It's to have a bit of fun with something that isn't related to what I do for a living.
Do you have other things to keep you occupied? Or are your options - in the absence of getting laid - "sitting on the sofa and thinking about getting laid"?
- I'd rather have two or three things that I can put the time into than six that get equally neglected; whether or not I'm hamstering my own excuse is left as an exercise for the reader.

RedPillN00B · 2017-05-17T20:36:17+00:00

Ahhhh, here we go, a somewhat normal post where you show some vulnerability. I get it now, you're mad, you blame TRP for fucking up your "perfect" relationship. It makes sense, only at 30, you should have been smart enough to realize she was worth stickin around for.

Title	Took advice of TRP, tried to be a slayer, broke off LTR, now am miserable and suicidal.
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Date	May 16, 2017 8:53 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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