When I first discovered this subreddit, it was in a negative way. I'd been lead here through an insulting post referencing TRP. At first, I too was ready to have all sorts of negative things to say about you guys. But then as I read more and more posts, finding myself unable to stop digging, unable to stop clicking every blue post I could find, I realized that I'd swallowed the red pill a long time ago. When I was younger I was definitely beta. Very shy, timid, quiet , an overall pushover. But as I got older I became more confident. I became daring. I started training in MMA, I played football for a Season ( I got tired of losing due to other people sucking at their positions) and I started having an actual sex life.

Without even knowing it i had established a few alpha traits and behaviors, but i was very subtle about it. Now at first glance im not such an imposing figure.I'm only about 5'9 maybe 5'10 at best and 22 years old .Usually about 150-155 pounds mostly muscle , very low body fat. (Out of shape for now due to a few months of complications with my heart and Inability to do any fitness training). So I'm not exactly a big guy. I'm considered very facially handsome by many of the women I know. Without sounding too cocky, i don't really have to put in effort to get laid.

Some of my friends are big hockey players, another is a wrestler who is also bigger than myself. And overall i'm not very alpha looking. But i have a fighters spirit and i have the training behind me, so whenever the dudes decide to have some friendly competition and try to tap eachother out or do some friendly sparring type of activity, I absolutely dominate. But I don't do it to be dominant, I just love martial arts and I'm a competitive person, so I never really put any thoughts into the fact that I'd pretty much established that I was the last one to pick a fight with. Yet I stay humble about it, and am always willing to teach others. I never talk a big game or brag. I let my actions speak for me. I don't like to be cocky, and I'm never the loud overly alpha one of the bunch, but it's probably because I've had such success with the way I am already. I keep an alpha mind state and it seems that others tend to feel it without me even having to act dominant. It's simply that I'm not afraid to step up to the challenge and deal with whoever is willing, and everyone knows that. I've been in settings where it was just a few people I knew and lots of strangers, and a couple times people, for one reason or another, tried to step up to me. At this point anyone who knows me would usually go up to the other dude and say something like "honestly dude, you're picking the worst fucking fight you could possibly pick right now" and they usually back down. Don't get me wrong though, I don't rely on others to fight my battles, they just know that there's no way I'm backing down and they just try to save the other dude. And honestly I don't like useless drama. I've had 1 street fight in the last 5 years and , as expected, people got wind of that as well, and people rarely try some dumb shit with me.

I've always been a kind hearted nice guy who has a soft spot for a pretty face and some nice eyes. But after a 4 year relationship with a particularly difficult girl, my views changed for a little while. When I became single, I would get drunk at parties and hook up with as many girls as I could. It's amazing how proper posture and a little but of assertiveness can really bring in the girls. I gave up the sweet talking and the chasing, which i had thought was the best strategy in my younger days, and it worked so well. My main strategy was to talk to a girl for a few minutes, establish that I was attracted to her, and then just move on and keep partying. Maybe I'd walk by and smile, or perhaps have a shot poured for her and myself and we would take it together. But after about 2 or 3 short interactions i just stop paying attention to her knowing that the girl would wonder why I wasn't all over her and she would then pursue me. It worked like a charm. I don't have any really crazy success stories. I guess my best would be having sex with 2 different girls at a party. Not a three some , just one after the other.

As I started this type of behavior , I realized that some of these girl had boyfriends or partners or whatever. But I just didn't give the slightest fuck to be honest. I knew one girl who would blatantly flirt with me IN FRONT of her bf. He's a nice kid but a total pushover and he just let her do whatever she wanted. She cheated one him before and he found out and he did absolutely nothing about it. I think he just cried and forgave her or something. So one night I made out with her while he was gone, just because I knew I could. I dropped my sympathy for these weak guys who just let these girls walk all over them. These are girls who honestly are fun people and nice when you get to know them. But they have these betas trying to tame them and it's become so apparent to me that assertiveness, dominance , and Confidence are some of the things that we as men will fail without. I will never live any other way.I had started out a shy little boy, and unknowingly taken the red pill. And I had no idea what improvement I'd made until I read the posts in this subreddit. I'm glad I did some digging. Up until now I had never realized what I was doing, I had never thought of alphas and betas. But after lots of reading, everything makes sense now, and I can accurately point out the standing of other males in my social group.